Typical reasons for separation that are not

No question: if the relationship is over, we should split up. Otherwise it only costs both parties unnecessarily time, nerves and strength. But not that we fall into the trap and break up for the wrong reasons! In the following apparent relationship problems, we should at least consider three times whether a separation is really the solution …

Typical reasons for separation, which are actually not

1. "My partner doesn't make me happy."

If he is the right one, he makes me happy, and if he does not make me happy, he is not the right one – many think. But they forget something: It is not our partner's job to make us happy. That is our own task, What we can expect from the person by our side is that he does not stand in our way and supports us in the best case. But: If the partner unhappy is of course a reason for separation!

2. "It doesn't tingle (anymore) when I think of him."

Butterflies in the belly, soft knees, always in the mood for sex – yes, that's part of a happy relationship. Nope! These are all just Symptoms of falling in love, in other words a stressful state in which our body is in the initial and initial phase of a relationship. However, it lasts (luckily) for a maximum of one year, then the infatuation ideally becomes more and instead of tingling in the stomach we can look for the signs of love.

3. "We rely on each other too much."

Once you have found true love, you will never let it go again and do everything to keep it – yes, only this "do everything for it" rarely manifests itself in long-term relationships in weekly romantic proofs of love or in the morning to make yourself pretty for the other. Even after many years of partnership, happy couples clearly show that they value and respect each other. But this is expressed above all in growing trust and in the certainty that the other person will not leave us because we get wrinkles and love us, even if he does not come home with flowers every week. Counting on the others and even taking it for granted that he stands with us in good and bad times is something positive – and certainly not a reason for separation.

4. "We argue too much."

When two people really fit together, the relationship is harmonious and there are hardly any disputes and differences of opinion – you might think, but it's not true. After all, we always remain two different people with two independent heads, worldviews and emotional worlds and it is also normal for us to sit down. The only thing that matters is that we argue with our partner at eye level. Only if one is always back while the other is handing out is the relationship not a good star. If, on the other hand, both give air to their displeasure, it is healthy – and with subsequent reconciliation sex even in two ways!

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