Somehow it's almost a bit cynical: We get this one, short chance, but nobody tells us what to do with it and how we can make the best of it. On the other hand, it is also good news that the meaning of life is unknown, because after all, we cannot waste our moment on this earth. The fact that we don't get any instructions for use at birth gives us the freedom to try it out and write one ourselves. The following habits, however, restrict us in this freedom and spoil one of the most beautiful sides of our lives – often without us realizing it.
5 habits that destroy your life without you realizing it
1. Live in the past
The older they get, the more many people tend to live in the past. The retro mistake in particular can cause damage: Because the past often seems more beautiful to us than the present, we no longer allow ourselves to be right here and now and feel unhappy. We cannot hold onto the past and try or wish it back is wasted time and energy – which we could use to experience the present.
2. Rags
Generally, wishing that unchangeable things are different is wasted time and energy. Why do we have to die? Why are we getting older and sick? Why are some people so ruthless? How would my life have been if I had been born somewhere by the sea? Our world is what it is. We understand some things when we think about them and can then make peace more easily (e.g. because we have to die, other people can be born, so death is actually a good thing).
We cannot explain other things, but we should learn to let go of them for our own good – because everything else is of no use. tip: Often it helps inner peace to find something in the context that we can change and influence and to concentrate on it. For example, try to be considerate yourself when you can't get others to do it …
3. Live in the future
"First, it always turns out differently, and second, than you think." Certainly we can and should live with foresight, after all we don't have the ability to do it for nothing. But many worries and plans for the future are superfluous once it has become the present. What frightens us usually doesn't get that bad or we get through it better than expected, and where we have planned in detail, we have to improvise in the end. It is clearly scary that we cannot always prepare for everything. But the good news is: we have to not at all! And once we understand that, we feel free and ready to accept the present.
4. Too much to look at others
We are highly social beings and that is one of our greatest strengths. We need feedback from others. Comparing ourselves gives us orientation and enables us to change our perspective. And we learn a lot by simply copying it. But at the latest as adults we have to be able to differentiate ourselves and understand that we For us are responsible and ours own Have to make decisions. We should be able to orientate ourselves without running after someone, and it should no longer matter how much applause and approval we get for what we do and think is right. Because if we are allowed to write our own instructions for use – why should we allow a dictation to be imposed?
5. Dramatize
Many people have a tendency to step into things and dramatize them. But we should never forget: Most of what appears to be the end of the world is not the end of the world at all. Not even a global crisis that affects everyone is the end of the world. Sometimes we cannot avert great misfortune. That is annoying and of course we are allowed to cry and suffer. But we don't have to make the misfortune extra large and let it overshadow everything that could give us strength. After all, we only have this one, short chance. Do we want to use them to indulge in the difficult, the problematic – or what fills us with love and joy?