What if we adopted "Kondo-ing" to sort out our romantic relationships?

A new love trend is emerging: "Kondo-ing". Inspired by Marie Kondo's storage method, it consists of cleaning up her love life and her friendships.

You've probably heard of the High Priestess of Storage Marie Kondo, especially since the arrival of his series on Netflix. Perhaps you are yourself a follower of his KonMari method, known around the world thanks to the best-selling book "The magic of storage". The famous Japanese gives a precious helping hand to people who live in disorder in order to declutter their interior (and their head in the process). The principle is relatively simple: take each object or item of clothing in our hands and check if it "gives us joy". If this dress gives us joy, we keep, otherwise we throw or give. What if we told you that this method also applies to romantic relationships?

What is this new love trend in "Kondo-ing"?

If originally this technique of storage and sorting is intended to save space at home, it is quite possible to apply it to his personal, love or even friendly life. This is what the Canadian dating site suggests Plenty of Fish. This new approach titled "Kondo-ing" is fast becoming THE love trend to adopt.

From now on, each person that we meet and for whom we begin to develop romantic feelings must "bring us joy". And if not … "thank u, next" as Ariana Grande puts it so well. We rather adhere to the trend, provided we are not as radical as Marie Kondo. The idea is not to throw people away like vulgar socks and even less to consider them as objects, but rather to question oneself about what one feels and expects. Because it saves precious time and protects your little heart.

How to apply the Marie Kondo method to our romantic relationships?

The "Kondo-ing" works as well for our crushes as for our partners or ex. We say goodbye to ghosting, breadcrumbing or wokefishing specialists, to those who play with our feelings, who give us hope and finally disappear and who are "not ready to commit".

For exes, it's the same process. T-shirts, souvenir box, photos … Do these objects really bring us joy or, on the contrary, depress us? And it's the same with their number, still saved on our phone with a broken heart emoji. One of the best ways to get over a past relationship is to let go of those memories. To move forward, we reject negativity and bitterness and try to be grateful for the good times we had together.

In short, "Kondo-ing" invites us to refocus on ourselves to welcome the next person who will give us joy in order to finally be happy couple (or happy single, that also works!).

See as well : How to react to ghosting?

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The "Kondo-ing", also effective in friendship

It is quite possible to do the same with regard to our friendships. Are they happy for us when we are? Are they supportive? Are we anxious to see them? Some friendships change over time, and the good feelings at the start only lead to stress and unhappiness.

As simplistic as it is, the "Kondo-ing" method can be an opportunity to ask the right questions and ask if certain friendships are worth keeping. Sometimes a little distance is enough to ease the situation. But if change isn't possible, sometimes it's best to end a toxic relationship to protect your health and well-being.

We leave you, we have some housework to do.