Ghosting is a phenomenon that we no longer present. Faced with this kind of toxic attitude, two reactions: to let it pass in order to move forward or to seek to understand at all costs. This second option is called ghostbusting and it makes us want revenge.
Ghosting is the great evil of social networks and dating apps. Imagine: you’ve started chatting with someone and it’s serious. You talk to each other all the time, maybe even seeing yourself already. But overnight, this person disappears. You are blocked on his social networks, his number is for absent subscribers. More news, not the slightest explanation. In short, you’ve been ghosted … The process is now well known to the general public and almost everyone has experienced this kind of inconvenience at least once (if not more) in their love life.
Often, faced with this kind of situation, we moan, we complain a lot, we insult the person in question with all the names with our BFFs, and then one day, we move on. But always with that little hint of uncertainty that makes us wonder: what exactly happened? This question can become a real poison and some people refuse to be misunderstood. They then turned to the still little-known practice of “ghostbusting.”
Revenge of the victims of ghosting
The followers of ghostbusting are logically called ghostbusters. Yes, like in the movie of the same name! And just like the heroes and heroines of the feature film, their goal is to hunt ghosts. Of course, this is a metaphor: ghostbusting is the fact of going on a real crusade against the people who had the audacity to ghost us and to hunt them down until we get answers, explanations. Even if it means employing sometimes unscrupulous methods …
This method is not that rare, since according to the Canadian dating site Plenty Of Fish, while 78% of dating site users have already been victims of ghosting, 38% have already embarked on dating. ghostbusting so that they could end a story that didn’t end the way they wanted it to.
How does ghostbusting work?
While ghosting occurs all at once with abrupt disappearance, ghostbusting increases more gradually. It all starts with interrogative messages sent on different platforms: by sms, via social networks … Then come calls, sometimes by going straight to a hidden number, or even by borrowing another person’s phone to be able to check if their number has been locked.
Usually, these techniques do not bear fruit, so you have to take it to the next level. Stalking on social networks via fake accounts, making contact with the relatives of the person who ghosts us … In short, act as if she was really missing and that she had to be reached at all costs. Some people even tell on social networks that they have made Vinted, Paypal or even money transfers to their exes to remember them fondly.
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Be careful not to fall into the obsession
Obviously, this kind of attitude is not entirely healthy, although it can be understood … to a certain extent. It is normal to want to have answers, it is even often essential to be able to move on to something else without spending weeks or even months wondering about the why and the how. However, letting things turn into an obsession can be just as bad for your mental health. Very quickly, you will no longer be able to think of anything else and this will pollute your daily life and even your relationships with your loved ones. If you’re seriously considering asking a private investigator to track down your ex to find out why he or she left you, maybe you should question yourself …
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