Don't panic, we don't want to dig up the moral club from the 60s – nothing against innocent fun! Thanks to Tinder, we no longer have to do too much work. But if we have someone in bed with whom we can imagine more – can we somehow find out what it looks like with him? Sure we can! For example, by paying attention to these seven things.
7 characteristics distinguish having sex and making love
1. Eye contact
No, you don't look each other in the eye during sex – that would be mega creepy! But if it is more than just sexual intercourse and feelings are involved, it is typical that the partners make eye contact from time to time and look the other in the face. On the one hand this creates intimacy and on the other hand it is an indication that you are interested in the feelings of the other.
2nd position
Admittedly, which position we choose depends on many factors – but the feelings are definitely one of them! If you want to keep it non-binding and anonymous, Doggy Style and Reverse Cowgirl are made for you. Because there is no eye contact. Missionary positions, on the other hand, or even the simple cowgirl create significantly more intimacy – and are therefore evidence of love in action!
3. Foreplay
When having sex with a man, you can deduce a lot from the length and intensity of the lead. Because men generally need less foreplay than women to get going. If he takes his time before the climax and does his part with necking and petting, he is probably doing it mainly for your sake. And he would hardly do that if he only wanted to satisfy his needs.
4. Kissing
Kissing is also a clear sign of intimacy, because in principle it is absolutely superfluous for mere sexual intercourse. So if you feel lips on your neck, stomach, décolleté and of course your lips, there is a high probability that feeling is involved.
5. Tempo or slowness!
See foreplay: a quickie is easy without feeling, flower sex against it, the declaration of love under the hot numbers, takes a while. The pace is a criterion for both homosexual couples and heterosexual couples – because either way: Whoever makes love will drag out the matter as much as possible and also enjoy and savor the things around, while those who only have sex are limited to the essentials.
6. Consideration
If your sex partner cares about you, they will do things that primarily serve your pleasure. It is important to him that you get your money's worth and have an orgasm, because that also makes him happy. A clear indication of an emotional level!
7. Still cuddling?
Cuddling after sex strengthens the connection and relationship between the partners – and if you don't want that, you will definitely avoid it! So: If she or he makes yourself comfortable with you afterwards, takes you in your arms and fondles you, you probably just weren't just having non-binding fun.