What is the friendzone, this relationship that leads nowhere?

Anyone please really, but nothing is happening As you want it. He sees you as his girlfriend or her best friend. So you are in this very hazy situation called the “friend zone”. But what is the “friend zone”? The “friendzone”, from “friendship zone”, refers to a romantic situation between two people that can be complicated: one wants to be in a relationship with the other, while the other just wants to stay in a friendly relationship. Moreover, it is commonly said to be “friendzoned”. It’s being in this very frustrating blur where one develops feelings that are not reciprocated.

It is also a technique which can be used to make clear the intentions and put up a big stop sign as testified by Alice, a single woman interviewed for the magazine Femme Actuelle. She states: “When a boy tries to seduce me, but I don’t plan anything more with him, the technique I use is friendzoning… It’s a nicer way to refuse to go further , while staying in contact with him. Telling him that I really like him, but that I prefer that we remain friends, always goes better than a more direct answer, which could hurt him. On the other hand, I happened to be friendzoned myself, and it was not very pleasant moments, I admit it…”

Why do we get friendzoned and how do we get out of it?

When you meet a man you may not adopt the right attitude. It’s not about being frontal and playing cards on the table, however you have to get out of this category which is “good girl syndrome”. Moreover Vannessa Wisnia Weill, a psychiatrist, explains years Current wife that“Being the good girlfriend systematically implies as much a distancing of sexual desire as the need to erase differences sexual.” So to do to fall in love the object of your desires it is necessary first of all establish a relationship of seduction and assume the “sexual desire”. But without going into “fuckzone” which is a contract between two consenting people to have sex without attachment. Which is not the goal if you want to have an ongoing relationship. This situation can be like “friend zone”: source of suffering.

If you want get out of this pattern it is not not too late. It may be that the person also wants to have a relationship and does not know how to declare it. This is confirmed by Florence Escaravage, Founder of Love Intelligence: “If the idea of ​​a romantic relationship runs through the head of one of the two friends, it’s not a coincidence, it’s because something special is happening between them. There’s no no smoke without fire…” She also explains that thehe founding pillars of a romantic relationship are the same as those of a friendly relationship, i.e.: emotion, intellect and spirituality. But to get out of the friendzone that leads nowhere, you’ll have to change attitude or create a break in the behavior you have with the person you like. She needs to understand your intentions and open her eyes.