How about making oral sex a little sexier? “Facesitting” may well be the ideal sexual practice for testing new things together.
When it comes to oral sex, sometimes we lack imagination. Result: we always end up in the same position, namely crouching at the bottom of the bed under a duvet that keeps us warm. To spice up oral sex, let's indulge in facesitting, a sexual practice that can seem as intimidating as it is exciting. But which focuses above all 100% on our pleasure.
What is facesitting?
The facesitting consists of sitting on the face of his or her partner to receive oral sex (cunnilingus, fellatio or rimming). Originally, this sexual practice was reserved for the BDSM community, more familiar with domination, especially female. The person sitting on his or her partner's face is usually the dominant partner. But facesitting is now more and more practiced and is no longer limited only to these environments.
This progressive practice is open to anyone, regardless of gender, anatomy or gender. We speak of "queening" when the seated person identifies as a woman or has a vulva, and "kinging" if he identifies as a man or has a penis.
Also read: What is queening, this sexual practice that empowers women?
How to practice facesitting?
If facesitting is enough to arouse curiosity, there are many people who don't dare to take the plunge because straddling your partner's face can be very intimidating. Before daring to kinging / queening, here are some tips:
- Talk to your partner
If the idea of receiving or giving oral sex this way intrigues you, it is recommended that you discuss it with your partner. Do not hesitate to tell him what you want and simply offer to test this new position together. If it's the fact of exposing your penis frontally to your partner that is intimidating you, you can turn off the lights or opt for more subdued lighting.
- Put your weight on your knees
Now let's move on to logistics. Straddle her face with your legs and use your knees for support and waving movements. You are not actually sitting on his head (which could be dangerous for your partner), but you are using the strength of your legs and thighs.
- Help yourself from the headboard
To help with balance, the dominant partner may lean on the wall or headboard for extra support. This way, you won't have to worry about your balance and instead can focus all of your attention on your pleasure.
- Vary the intension and pressure of movements
Facesitting allows you to really take part in oral sex. You can do slow movements of the hips forward and backward or make circles on his face. You can control the pressure by moving closer or further away from your partner. You just need to get up a little when you want to experience more or less sensations.
One of the concerns some people have with facesitting is that they might crush their partner's face. This is unlikely to happen, but if it worries you, you can create a signal for your partner to communicate when he or she needs a break. It could be a pat on your thigh or a wave of the hand.
- Test different positions
There are various ways of riding his or her partner. Experiment from the front, back, or even to the side to see which position you prefer.
- Let your partner know you appreciate
The idea of being exposed in this way may make some people uncomfortable, but chances are your partner will benefit. Facesitting can be extremely exciting for both partners. Do not hesitate, both to show your pleasure and compliment each other during the act.
See: 10 Taboo Sex Practices That Really Shouldn't Be
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