Breakups almost always hurt. But sometimes they are not only the only way out, but also the beginning of something better – as these stories show.
Hardly anyone makes the decision to part easy. The fear of change and the uncertainty about what is coming often play a role here. Theoretically, life could develop positively after a separation and the new life situation could bring new drive and motivation with it … With "Whisper" people who had this case in practice shared their experiences. Their stories suggest that we don't have to stay with someone just for fear of what happens afterwards.
People tell: This is how my separation improved my life
1. Motivation for studying
"After a terrible breakup, he told me I was worthless. Guess who's using that to motivate me to study medicine!"
2. Clever revenge
"In a way, I like breakups because they motivate me to make my exes feel like they made a mistake. Six packs and a six-digit number in my account, I'm on my way!"
3. Source of inspiration
"After my ex broke up with me, I finally found inspiration to write poetry again."
4. Stronger together
"I've found that breaking up with my unfaithful ex has motivated me to help other women in this situation."
5. Suddenly it works
"My ex and I no longer talk to each other. I now have a new job, I will move into my own apartment next month and go back to university. My separation is my motivation to be successful."
6. Welcome wake up call
"Four years ago, a woman broke up with me because I took a break from studying and didn't have a job. Today I'm studying medicine and working as a model on the side. Thanks for the inspiration."
7. Motivation for coming out
"My ex-fiancée left me because I'm trans. But I'm grateful to her because the breakup motivated me to come out."
8. Life back on the line
"I'm working on myself and loving myself more. I also have a new job that will help me get my life going. I think I hit the jackpot when I broke up."
9. Got my butt up
"A year ago today, I would have sat on the couch with my ex, but now I'm doing everything I can to show him and build an independent future for myself."
10. Freedom to grow
"My boyfriend broke up with me and in the beginning I was sad. But now I see so many opportunities for me to achieve my goals without being distracted, to grow and to become the person I want to be."
11. Turn anger into power
"By being so mad at my ex and about our breakup, I am much more motivated to achieve my goals. I started doing sports and especially when I listen to music I get so angry that I really feel myself work out. "
12. At peace with yourself
"Since my breakup, I've felt that my skills and talents are coming back and blooming. Maybe the stress prevented me from connecting my mind and intuition."
13. Live for yourself instead of your partner
"My boyfriend broke up with me last night. Starting today, I'll work on growing for myself instead of for him. However, I'll show him what he's missing."
14. Revenge is sexy
"I'm super motivated to get fit so I can learn pole dance and rub it under my ex's nose. He broke up with me because I'm not sexy enough for him. This is love, folks."