We all know ghosting is lousy, but it still happens again and again. What motivates people to dump others badly against their better knowledge has been shared by confessing ghosts in "Whisper".
Ghosting isn't exactly the fine French way, we all agree on that. Simply being left hanging in the air by someone who runs away without saying goodbye or explanation can be psychologically stressful and unsettling. In addition, such a silent departure makes it difficult for the dumped person to let go and carry on (which certainly everyone knows who has sent an application and has never received a rejection …).
Nevertheless, online dating is what is being hosted for what it takes. Why? On the one hand, certainly because ghosting is easy and convenient and the ghost ends don't have to go through what the hosted go through. On the other hand, there is always a previous history and individual motives – as the following confessions by confessing ghosts in "Whisper" show.
People explain why they have hosted before
1. Message did not arrive
"He just didn't want to accept my limits. After I had found the love of my life again, he didn't stop asking if I would like to stop by for a 'glass of wine'. That I had already told him that I would happy and forgiven, he didn't seem to care. "
2. As you me, so I you
"It always took him forever to answer, and every time it was me who had to get back in touch. So at some point I just left it."
3. Embarrassment
"I accidentally sent him a screenshot of him and his ex that I actually wanted to send to my girlfriend. After that I was so ashamed that I blocked him everywhere and never talked to him again. Now I feel so bad because of it. "
4. Exchanged
"I once hosted a guy who was actually very cute, but also kind of boring and insecure. I had met someone else, so I hosted the other person. I still have a guilty conscience."
5. Creepy
"We had met at 'OKcupid' and had been writing and making plans for a while, but we hadn't met personally. Then at one o'clock in the morning he wrote me to come over. It seemed so strange to me that I just told him no longer answered. "
6. A lie
"I once hosted someone because I lied about my age. That was over a year ago, but I still regret it extremely."
7. Didn't know what to write
"I once ghosted someone because I just didn't know what to answer. After months, something occurred to me, but by then the person on the number was no longer available."
8. Wrong question
"I broke off contact with this guy after he asked me if I would like to be his 'internet girlfriend'. Is there such a thing?"
9. Unwanted feelings
"I was hosting my online lover. I just wanted to have fun with him, but then I started developing feelings for him."
10. Mother's boy
"My first experience with online dating: I drive to his house and discover that not only does he not have a job or a car, but he also lives with his mom and dad (he was almost 30). I had to go to Date pay everything. I kind of ghosted him afterwards. "
11. Surface
"I cut off guys online after learning what they look like. I feel terrible for being so superficial."