Why it is no wonder that mothers are constantly irritated

I am irritated. Again. After a hectic half-day working day, as so often I tried to squeeze the work from eight hours into four, I picked up the little one from the daycare center and started discussions about why we should not immediately go to the next best friend, but first pick up his sister, go shopping and then … oh, let me get there first, DAMN!

Mothers, a little MIMIMI is fine

I think sometimes it is not easy for us. And because we always have to be constructive, wise, clear-cut and strong, let's have a little MIMIMI here and now. We vow not to break the liberating effect of cultivated jamming with sentences like "But they are all worth it, the little sweeties". Or by mentioning the sometimes great, sometimes less great performance of the related fathers to reduce our MIMIMI law. Even if all of that is so, it shouldn't matter today. Because today we want to whine. We deserve it! And without any ifs and buts!

10 reasons why mothers have the right to be irritable

1. We suffer from chronic lack of sleep

7 to 8 hours of sleep at a time are optimal? We can only laugh about it. An editor of the online magazine Buzzfeed once tried to sleep just under five hours a week (I repeat: a week !!!!). A doctor advised him not to try. His reason? DANGEROUS! Very funny … but we now know: True. Especially dangerous for the environment.

2. We have too many construction sites in our heads

A friend of mine once told me many years ago that you shouldn't have more than three construction sites in your head. I thought that was a good thought. But it sounds like a bad joke to mothers. We no longer just juggle our life issues, but the whole mental load of an entire family. Our life consists of building sites, so to speak. And just like driving through a never-ending traffic jam, it just makes it aggro at some point.

3. We are always on the alert everywhere

At work, we expect "Your child has stomach ache" calls, nightmares and always with unforeseen events. Mothers are on duty all the time. Anyone who takes on duty and night shifts in the public service is entitled to regular rehabilitation measures. Well … where is our rehab?

4. We rush between two worlds

Not that I would ever want it to be different: But the back and forth between work and mother mode is sometimes really exhausting. Especially when there is no short break between breathing and collecting. What we really lack is simply SILENCE.

5. We will never do everything and that frustrates us

Our life is a long to do list. You have to be a very relaxed candidate in order not to be stressed out by all the unchecked points.

6. As many decisions as a top manager (but unfortunately not his salary)

"Can I see Jakob?" "Do I get my pocket money today?" "Can I go to the playground alone?" "May Emilia sleep with us today?" Mothers make decisions all day long. Our job is therefore like that of a top manager. Too bad that our balance looks different …

7. We have to keep forgiving ourselves (and that is difficult)

We were unfair, we overreacted, we sweated Tim's children's birthday party? As a mother you have to forgive yourself all the time … and that is hard emotional work.

8. Our role models are utopias and make us feel guilty

We have said it many times and like to say it again and again: Connis Mama is a stupid cow because she constantly makes us feel guilty.

9. We constantly have to deal with other people's disappointment

Call at work for the tenth time because the children are sick. Tell the childless friend for the seven hundredth time that you are not available to wallow between 6 p.m. and 8 p.m. Listen to the fact that you NEVER play anything with the child, because you ALWAYS do housework. Being a mother means often disappointing others. That's just how it is. And that is sometimes hard.

10. We cannot (at least feel) fail

I still remember the day when I was in the delirium of fever and completely dehydrated thanks to the Noro virus and gave the last drops of liquid in my body in the form of breast milk. Sometimes mothers cannot pull out. It's that easy.