Why should we stop asking women when are they going to have a baby?

"When's the baby?" "," Soon a little second? "… In an Instagram column, Loma Club director and founder Josepha Raphard explains why these seemingly harmless questions are in fact problematic.

“Every day women are traumatized by their childbirth.
Every day, women embark on yet another assisted reproduction journey.
Every day women decide not to have children.
I repeat.
Women decide not to have children.
Every day women experience miscarriages.
Every day women give birth to stillborn babies.
Every day women have an abortion.
Every day women struggle to be able to welcome a child they will love as if they had given birth to it.

Not because we can't say anything more, but because we have already said too much.

Stop asking women when they are going to have a baby. Even between women.
Even if the woman already has a child and is just asked when the next one is due.

We must stop asking this question which has become so common and so deceptively innocuous for far too many people.

You never know what fight a person is fighting, you never know what fight a person has chosen to fight.

Every day of our lives we try to understand, listen, respect and make peace with our bodies in a world where they seem to be everyone's business.

Stop asking women when they are going to have a baby. Not because we can't say anything more, but because we have already said too much.
Because we've heard too much already.

To all the women of the world, to our bodies and to the struggles that emanate from them. "

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An inspiring text which we hope will raise awareness.

Elise Poiret

Journalist specializing in parenthood, Elise writes for aufeminin and Parole de mamans. She is also very involved in the fight for women's rights.

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