The “supermom” invade social networks, but this term is not necessarily a compliment. A mother points to the mental load increased by this phenomenon.
“Do-it-yourself woman” or “good to marry”, all women have already heard one of his remarks, but what does it imply? The “perfect woman”, as she is often portrayed, can do everything: cooking, working, educating, tidying up, cleaning, smiling, looking after your couple… The price to pay to be “good to marry” and all this without counting that in the event of a problem, everything will rest on the shoulders of the woman too! And this is one of the aspects of the mental load that women often bear throughout their lives.
Once they have become mothers, nothing escapes society. Between “mom-shaming” and “supermom” there is only one step, “mom-shaming” is the fact of blaming mothers for each of their choices: you work too much, you are with your children too much, you do not take care enough of the house, you do not maintain your couple. But conversely, there is this new phenomenon that has been born, being a “supermom” and it is anything but insignificant. Podcast host and educator Laura Danger provides an update on this damning new term.
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Being a “supermom” is not rewarding according to Laura Danger
Laura Danger, who is also a mom, shared in a video posted on her Tik Tok account @thatdarnchat why this term is inappropriate according to her. She explains : “I will fight anyone on the street who calls me supermom. I’m not a great mom. I never want to be a super mom. I never want anyone to call me a jack of all trades.” According to her, it is unthinkable that all the responsibilities of a household rest on one and the same person. And this is why this phenomenon is dangerous: “I never want to be so essential to an organization, a group or even my family that everything rests on me. I want to be important enough to count, I want to bring something more. But I don’t want to be the one to put up with absolutely everything.”
This way of life is not viable according to her and she is not the only one to think so. Wanting to carry a whole family on your shoulders is a huge mental burden when everyone should be able to slip away without feeling like everything is collapsing.. Additionally, she explains: “I don’t want to be that strong. I want to live a life of pleasure. I want to be empowered to rest. I’m not a great mom. I will never be a super mom.” No need therefore to qualify moms as “supermoms” even if it may seem like a compliment at first sight…
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Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…