March 20th is not just the beginning of spring, the world is also celebrating Romantic Day today. So that love stays fresh and active in long-term relationships, both partners have to help. Because "everyday life catches up with us" and mutual caressing moves into the background, knows couple therapist and author of "Mid-Love-Crisis: relationship tips for advanced", Silvia Fauck.
Togetherness on weekends
In an interview with the news agency spot on news, the relationship expert emphasizes: "I don't think much of common hobbies. It is more important that everyone has their own space for their own things. A woman should also be able to do something on her own, just like the man." One or the other weekend should also be used for intimate togetherness. "Children and worries shouldn't be an issue. It always refreshes," says Fauck. A trip to another city can also be helpful, because "sex in a hotel bed is always different than in bed at home".
Sex doesn't have to come first
Many couples don't mind that sex falls by the wayside, she explains. "Something like this is only critical if one person feels the need for sex and the other does not." In the worst case, this could also lead to an affair. But others would put things like sports, children or their own parents in the first place and would get along well with it. "In my opinion, this is an individual decision of a couple."
If you still want to make sex life more active, you should always tell your partner "what you want". "Talking to each other, being honest and telling each other wishes is the be-all and end-all. […] You should meet in the middle so that nobody is neglected."