“Wu wei” mindset
This Chinese method helps to go through life more successfully
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Being more successful and happier in life without having to do a lot for it – the Chinese method “Wu wei” is supposed to be able to do that. We’ll explain what’s behind the name.
“Wu wei” means something like “non-action” or “action through non-action”. The method was coined by the Chinese philosopher Laotse. The idea is to follow the natural course of events rather than intervene when it is not necessary. The possibilities that exist around you should be given the chance to develop themselves. The idea behind it: The essential things happen by themselves, which is why they do not need our help. So it may be best not to stand in their way. Because otherwise people will get in their way with their will, their desires and their way of thinking. Instead, actions should be unintentional – i.e. without expectations of a certain outcome. In the following you will read how you can use the principle of effortlessness for yourself.
Losing control is a problem for many
In our everyday life we make many decisions; not only for us but also for others. This can happen, for example, at work, in a relationship, among friends or in the family. But sometimes our actions take over – we rely less and less on others, cannot let go; and assume that we have to be the driving force for something to succeed. This in turn causes stress. With “Wu wei” people can learn to let go of some of their control and take things as they come. Because it doesn’t always have to be a bad thing.
How we give “Wu wei” a chance
Psychologist Junhong Cao explains on “CNBC Make it” that the practice is not only helpful in everyday life, but also when working with other people. It can help with stress and anxiety and provide more satisfaction and well-being.
accept things as they are
Are you planning a party and you want everything to be perfect? Note: You have no influence on how it will end up – you don’t know how people are feeling that evening and there are other things that you cannot influence. You want to travel with friends, but no one seems to make a plan but you? This can be a nice ritual for you if you like to be prepared – but accept that things could be very different on site and that you will most likely not see everything. Either because the others prefer to go to the beach on some days or because it’s pouring rain or someone has an upset stomach. Instead, adopt this mantra: “I can’t control everything, but I can make the best of what happens.”
Embrace the imperfect
Precise ideas of what should happen are mostly disappointed. Whether it’s a holiday attraction that doesn’t look as magical as expected – or the said “perfect” birthday party, where the cake may go wrong or the catering doesn’t deliver enough food. All of this is annoying, but it doesn’t ruin the situation. Instead, it is usually your own point of view that paints everything black. Nothing is ever perfect. Are you fixated on the things that went wrong? Then Cao recommends stopping with the following thought: “Why should I torture myself to achieve the impossible? I choose to be flexible and kind to myself.”
practice mindfulness
How often do you take the time to stop and notice what is happening around you? Next time you go for a walk, take in the sun. How does it feel on your skin? Do you hear birds or the sound of the wind in the canopy? Who do you meet on your way? Practice curiosity and find out what triggers it in you. Try taking small steps to become aware of your feelings and thoughts.
Sources used: wu-de.com, cnbc.com, focus.de, freidok.uni-freiburg.de