1. You can tell yourself without fear if something disturbs you in the relationship
"At home is where you can say everything and no one is listening" Hopefully one of the wisdom that you can NOT sign. Every constructive criticism does not only include an open ear, but also a good dose of courage on both sides. It is not always easy to put the cards on the table. And it takes greatness to accept criticism. If you succeed (mostly), that's half the battle for a healthy relationship.
2. You meet at eye level
Are you aware that each of you is better at something than the other? Do you respect each other and are you aware of your own strengths? Congratulation! Another building block for a fulfilling life together.
3. You continue to go out with your friends (sometimes without a "sweetheart")
Merging belongs to you in bed, in "real life" are you still recognizable as an individual? Thank God! Because that's important to stay independent and strong.
4. You make yourself bigger and stronger
Love makes you strong and big, not weak and small. If you are each other's tailwind, updraft and parachute, nothing can happen to you.
5. You don't expect each other to give yourself everything you need
You are aware that a real person is not a dream prince from the wish-you-what bakery. Aspects that you lack in the other can you get through your friends, relatives, your own effort? Very clever! Because nobody will ever be able to give you everything you need. Unless you married Chuck Norris. Of course it can do everything. But we don't want to hope that for you …
6. You can leave your cell phones lying around without anyone looking at the other person's messages
The! Mobile phone! Of! Partners! Is! Taboo! There simply cannot be enough exclamation points in this sentence! If you know that, it's very good!
7. You don't lose sight of your own dreams
The common dreams of the world tour, the VW bus and your own home in honor, but you also keep your own wishes sacred. Ideally, your partner will help you to achieve them. But you don't expect that at all. You know: you are your own lucky smith. And if you can put a checkmark behind this point, HE obviously belongs to this happiness. PERFECT!