20 questions that ensure a lot of closeness in relationships

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20 questions that ensure a lot of closeness in relationships

Most people desire close bonds. But creating closeness is not that easy, especially when everyday life gets in the way. The right questions for deep conversations can also be asked over dinner.

They are important to all of us: relationships with other people. It doesn’t even have to be a romantic relationship. Friendships are also our pillars in times when we feel alone or because we may be alone – without a love partner. But even if we don’t live in classic love relationships, and maybe don’t want it at all, we long for bonds and closeness. It is simply built into us humans and is one of our basic needs. And it is precisely this closeness that we can strengthen by talking to one another and asking ourselves questions that are far removed from “How are you?” and how was your day?” lie. Questions whose answers open up a conversation and show more of who we really are. Such questions:

1. What was the best thing about your day today?

2. What are you missing the most right now?

3. When you were sad as a child, what comforted you?

4. What are you most proud of?

5. What feels better to you: being understood or getting approval?

6. What is on your mind right now?

7. What do you need to feel good?

8. Which year of life would you repeat again and why?

9. What experience has shaped you the most so far?

10. When did you first feel grown up?

11. What did you learn about relationships from your parents?

12. How much alone time do you need?

13. What is your biggest fear?

14. What is your greatest joy and how does it feel?

15. How do you show love?

16. When was the last time you cried?

17. What makes you confident?

18. What was the most important thing you learned so far?

19. What is your biggest dream?

20. What would you like to have been at the end of your life?

Of course, you don’t have to overwhelm your partner or friend with all these questions the next time you sit down at the table together. But try one of them and see what happens. New facets will definitely appear and you will learn things that you may not have known or that explain one or the other behavior and make it more comprehensible. Give it a try!

barbara