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4 sentences that can indicate that your partner is insecure about your relationship
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Not everyone finds it easy to communicate clearly when they have doubts in a relationship. These statements can be a subtle indicator of this.
In a stable relationship, clear, honest and appreciative communication should be the priority. Depending on your background and experiences, this is not easy for everyone. Some people find it difficult to say clearly what they want or what they are thinking. This could be because they learned and internalized in their childhood that they will be punished if they state their needs and thoughts too clearly.
Whatever it is, it is anything but easy for the partner to be with a person who struggles to talk about their feelings, doubts and insecurities. Sometimes it just helps to read between the lines and ask carefully. These sentences could indicate that your sweetheart is no longer as sure about your relationship as you are.
These sentences reveal that your partner is no longer sure about your relationship
1. “I don’t know.”
No matter what it’s about, your partner always answers with “I don’t know”, “I can’t say right now” or similar evasive statements? This is often a sign that something is working within the person, but they are not ready to talk to you about it (yet). You could gently ask what’s behind it and ask the other person to explain why they feel this uncertainty.
2. “I’m not good enough for you.”
On the surface, this sentence may sound as if the person is very confident about their relationship. But such struggles with self-worth can also be related to the fact that she has doubts about whether she can do justice to the relationship or whether it is (still) right for her. It can help to get to the bottom of the reason for this statement, as it may be based on deep uncertainty.
3. “I don’t have time for that.”
We all experience phases in which there is a lot going on, in which our different roles, for example at work or in the family, demand a lot from us. It’s only natural that other things in our lives are neglected from time to time, such as our relationships. However, if it becomes a permanent situation that the partnership ends up at the bottom of the priority list, it can be a sign that your partner no longer attaches that much importance to it – or doubts your connection.
4. “It’s all happening too fast for me.”
Pace is crucial, especially at the beginning of a relationship. It is important that both partners feel comfortable with the steps they take together, be it the first sexual contacts or the conversation about an official relationship. But speed can also become an issue later on: When do we want to move in together? When to get married and/or have children? Or of course: Do we even want these things?
It’s completely okay if people have different levels of comfort when it comes to such relationship milestones – or of course different ideas about which of them they actually want. It only becomes a problem when one side suddenly no longer feels comfortable with the agreed time frame and everything suddenly happens too quickly, which was just fine a short time ago. This can be a sign that there are doubts or uncertainties that are worth talking about.
Source used: hackspirit.com