“Say no
4 situations in which you should say “no” on the job
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“No” – a word that we usually do not like to use, as it is often associated with arrogance or one is labeled as unfriendly. But actually it does exactly the opposite. Setting limits for yourself and others is important for your own health, satisfaction and to be taken seriously at work.
The word “yes” comes much more easily to most people. “No” is usually associated with something negative. Often there is also fear behind it. Many employees are afraid of losing their job, of being socially excluded or of being unable to get help themselves if asked about it. By saying yes, people hope for recognition and gratitude.
Say “no” – stay healthy
Healthy egoism is good for us and therefore a “no” is absolutely possible. Just like the word “no”, there is nothing positive associated with egoism. It is important: It is not about an exaggerated egoism in connection with emotional coldness, which almost turns into narcissism, but about a balanced measure.
It’s about not sacrificing yourself with skin and hair for the common good and suffering quietly and quietly, but rather setting clear boundaries. These can protect against depression and burnout. In the following work situations, a “no” is definitely appropriate.
When should I still do that?
In many cases, everyday work is already stressful enough. If another colleague comes along: in or even the boss: in with a pile of work around the corner, it can quickly become too much. If your own work suffers from additional tasks, then it is important to say “no”.
Do your sh *** by yourself
If you have said “yes” often enough to additional tasks, this will be remembered by colleagues and bosses. It is important to pay attention to subtle flattery: “You are always particularly good at it” or “Nobody can do it better than you”. The following applies here: be careful! The colleagues or bosses most likely want to offload tasks that they themselves do not feel like doing.
When limits are exceeded
While some try to flatter their work on their colleagues, others rely on pressure and verbal attacks. If that is the case, there is no way other than a clear “no” to put the other person in his place.
When work-life balance remains a dream
Everyone knows: people need a balance to their stressful everyday working life. For some it is endurance sport to really work out, for others it is a good book on the couch or dancing around the apartment to loud music. No matter what it is, it matters. This is the only way to recharge the batteries. If you run the risk that the time-outs will be omitted due to overtime, that is also a reason for a clear “no”.
If you are not sure whether a “no” is appropriate at the moment, you can ask yourself the following questions:
- Will I finish my job if I accept the additional task?
- What would saying yes mean to me now? What would be the consequences?
- Do I have to postpone something else, for example a date with friends?
- Could I perhaps offer my counterpart alternatives?
- Who will suffer most if I decline the request now?
- Do I even want to do the additional task or would I just do it as a nice thing?
- Does my colleague really need help?
People are fundamentally unable to be there for others mentally and physically at all times – even if many would like to be. This is why the following applies: With every new request, the consequences of a “yes” or a “no” should be carefully considered.
Sources used: Xing.de