A fulfilling sex life in 2021, yes but how? No question of setting moralizing resolutions. This year, a single watchword: pleasure. Here are 5 ass resolutions to adopt today for a fulfilling sex life.
What if, this year, instead of setting unattainable goals, we made sure we were truly sexually fulfilled, whether we were single or in a relationship? Here are 5 good sex resolutions to adopt at any time of the year.
1. Engage in sexual self-care
“Self-care” literally means “self-care”. A term that designates both physical and mental well-being. Playing sports, cutting yourself off from social networks, or applying a mask are just some of them. But this notion can also be applied to sexuality. It can range from meditation and masturbation, to establishing intimacy, or even “non-sexy” sexual self-care such as making an appointment for a drug test. As you can see, the only rule of sexual self-care is to take care of yourself (and your partner).
2. Cut yourself off from distractions
Any distraction that takes you away from the present moment, whether it's a text from a friend, an email, or extraneous thoughts, disturbs you, or worse, cuts you off from your pleasure. Mute all of your electronic devices, or better yet, leave them outside the bedroom, as this will give you more chances to chat and be together, and put you in a good mood for sex.
Try yourself at mindful sex, like slow sex or tantric sex. Let go, "easier said than done," you might say. Start by refocusing on what you are feeling, focusing on a particular organ or on a sense. Concentrating on your breathing can also be of great help in chasing away parasitic thoughts.
3. Getting to (really) know yourself sexually
Knowing yourself sexually means determining what you like and what you don't like under the covers, the sexual positions that give us a direct jump to the sky and those that annoy us. For that, you have to dare to go and discover your body, literally. Masturbation is a good way to have a go, but you can first take the time to observe your penis, to know what it looks like, and to touch yourself, not necessarily in search of pleasure but out of pure curiosity. Some prefer to go with their hands, others with sextoys.
In recent years, pretty projects focused on female pleasure have emerged. Recently, we told you about Climax, explicit and fun female masturbation lessons. We also recommend Know Yourself, Clarence Edgar-Rosa's guide to self-exploration of the female sex, which lifts the veil on the "self-help" movement.
4. Talking about sex with your partner
Yes, said like that, it sounds simple, but a lot of people don't communicate during the act (and outside). Free the word on sex in your relationship, and ask your partner what he or she likes, what turns him on, what his fantasies are, but also his limits. Better communicateIt's also better to make love: expressing what works, what does not, will help you have more fun under the covers!
Before communicating during love, talk about sex outside the bedroom. It is important to standardize this topic in your regular conversations so as not to make it a taboo. Clearly, the ideal is to exchange before, during, and after the sexual act.
5. Don't put pressure on yourself
In 2021, stop the pressure of sex! There is no ideal frequency and norms in matters of sexuality. Everyone does what he or she wants. Some have sex twice a month, others have sex every day. Still others choose to take sex breaks and abstain from all intercourse. Some like it when it's long, others prefer it when it's short. Some people like vanilla sex, sweet and romantic, while others prefer acrobatic antics. So, if there is one place where the pressure to succeed and perform has no place, it's the bed. It doesn't matter what sex life you have, as long as it's right for you.