Come on, let’s make love. Just for fun. Without stress, contortions, headache and no frills. Just good sex. Simple. It can be incredibly good. A plea for pure sex – no more and no less. Try !
Just as we don’t eat caviar or truffles every day with our meals, it’s the same with sex. Sometimes simple, home cooking is perfect. Does that sound totally stupid to you? Where are we going with our comparison? Just remember a basic: simple sex, without frills or too acrobatic (we forget the position of the deer in heat or the Thai wheelbarrow with the kamasutra). Good sex, easy.
Here are five rules for “having good sex”, no more and no less:
1. Let go to make good love
Sex isn’t always about performance bluffing, and it isn’t ALWAYS necessary to have an orgasm. Anyone who thinks that sex without a climax is an aberration is seriously wrong. Enjoy everything, including the in-between and the forward. When there is no pressure, it is all sex and pleasure. If you are aware of this, you can enjoy the moment completely and also very differently because the stress is released. It’s not always about top performance and neither (really not) of ALWAYS getting straight to the point.
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2. Don’t underestimate the bed
Why do gymnastics around the house, ruin your knees on the living room rug or trigger a calf cramp during a quickie? Why struggle between the seats of the car or sneak into an airplane toilet when you have a heavenly and sweet place at home? Yes, we’re talking about your bed!
A soft mattress, a mother of soft pillows … it may seem a bit boring but it’s still the perfect place to make love with your partner, without bruises and no obstacles? We say: sex in bed isn’t tasteless, it’s great. A little softness in a world of brutes, it’s the foot, all the same, right ?!
3. Short sex doesn’t mean bad
In France, the average duration of sexual intercourse lasts only 20 minutes, according to a Pfizer survey. Is it good or too short? Certainly, 50 Shades of Gray wouldn’t have been a novel but just a short story if it had always been so. But sometimes short, quick, and easy sex is what we need, no more.
And that doesn’t stop you from starting gently, with a foot, shoulder and back massage. It allows you to relax and see if everyone is on the same page and wants more privacy. It can end there, just like continuing with quick sex … or branching off into a long, steamy session. The idea is not to put pressure on yourself and to see how things are going.
Read also : Slow sex: how to slow down in bed to enjoy better
4. Don’t ruin everything
We are constantly advised to talk to his / her partner about his / her sexual desires. It would be the only way to constantly try new things in bed and sex life would then be as exciting as a trip to Crocodile Dundee Australia. But do we really have to go through this?
Your sex can also be relaxed, spontaneous and, ultimately, quite naive and work just as well. It’s up to you to place the cursor. In short, don’t always discuss or talk about everything. Sometimes just “doing” is much better. And the other quite often understands what we want without necessarily having to verbalize it. That’s what is good !
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5. Stick to your favorite position
If it works and you are happy with it, why look for anything else? Why should you change your position often when making love? If this position allows you to find point G, then all indicators are green, don’t change anything! After all, why take the risk that by changing your habits and positions, you have to start all over again to find pleasure? Therefore, if it’s good, then just keep doing exactly what pleases you.
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