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8 signs you’re just a temporary solution for him
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When their relationship breaks up, many men want to let off steam first – and comfort the ego with a few “transitional women”. Are you one of them
Anyone who has found the man of their dreams wishes nothing more than that they harbor the same feelings for you. But it’s not that easy with love. While one person hears the wedding bells ringing, the other may just want to comfort themselves over a failed relationship. With these Warning signs you should be careful – and ensure that the situation is clear as soon as possible. Because just step in as a stopgap – we really don’t need that!
1. He compares you to the ex
Of course, he doesn’t do that by saying. “Hey, my ex had bigger breasts.” But in between, her name keeps coming up – and he doesn’t even notice.
2. He doesn’t want to get to know your family
“It’s still too early for me,” he says even after six months. Probably because deep down he already knows: This is nothing permanent – why should I do this to myself? Getting to know your friends – he usually has no problem with that, because he doesn’t consider it so binding.
3. He never talks about common future plans
Of course, you don’t have to talk about marriage and children after two weeks. But if you don’t appear in his future stories at all, that’s not a good sign.
4. He thinks the “relationship” model is old-fashioned
“Mingle”, “Friendship Plus” or “Friends with Benefit” – he finds such terms much more contemporary. He just sees you as friends who also go to bed with each other. Monogamy and a solid bond? Yes, maybe later …
5. He mainly spends the NIGHTS with you
Does he often call you at night after partying because he’s lonely? Now a round of “cuddling” – that would be nice. Yeah, do you think that’s it. But the fact is: if he really wants you, he’ll call you in the morning, at noon, in the evening. Not only if he didn’t tear up anyone else in the club.
6. You don’t get any support from him
He’s really nice and understanding, but doesn’t really care about your private problems? Sounds a bit like picking raisins. Have fun with you yes, share worries with you no.
7. He keeps emphasizing that he cannot really fall in love
It’s not up to you! He has not yet been able to open up to a woman – he is just not the type for that. Pure ramblings! In this case the prognosis is: very bad relationship prospects.
8. He always talks about himself
His worries, his fears, his needs. He likes to be comforted by you and also likes to talk to you – but mainly about himself. He rarely asks questions about how you are actually. So he doesn’t seem to have any real interest in you.