Erotic bondage is a type of BDSM in which one part is tied up by the other. Sounds exciting? Find out more here.
What is bondage?
Literally translated, the English term bondage means, among other things
- Bondage,
- Bondage,
- Bondage,
- Bondage,
- Force.
As a sex practice, bondage is one of the colorful flower meadow BDSM, which in turn is an abbreviation for the terms:
- Bondage & Discipline,
- Dominance & Submission,
- Sadism & Masochism.
At its core, bondage is generally about Makes – Dominance and submission, control and dependence, domination and property. The sex partners stage a role playing game, in which one takes over the submissive or submissive part and the other the dominant. For example, while in spanking physical pain is inflicted on the submissive part in order to increase its pleasure (keyword "pleasure pain"), in bondage it becomes his Restricted freedom of movementby shackles.
What is that supposed to do? Quite simply: in the person who is tied up, the predicament usually awakens instinctively fearwhich, as it is closely related to excitement, stimulating pleasure affects. The captivating person, in turn, experiences you Power tripwhich is also quite a turn-on for many people – and so usually both benefit from it.
Bondage: who does that?
In an ugly, dark gray past, bondage and other forms of BDSM were considered perverse and just talking about them was taboo. Meanwhile, and at least since the successful series "Fifty Shades of Gray" by E. L. James, most people are more open and curious about bondage games. It is true that there is no meaningful data that tells us how widespread bondage actually is in the bedrooms and sex chambers of our world (in some studies it is five, in others 25 and in still others more than 30 percent). But in surveys on sex fantasies, BDSM practices and power games regularly land in the top 5.
In principle, anyone who likes and is curious can and should experiment with bondage. Because ideally such experiments can …
- Bring variety to the sex life within a partnership and thus refresh the relationship,
- Solve blockages and orgasm problems,
- strengthen the self-confidence,
- trigger multiple orgasms,
- Reveal inclinations and contribute to self-discovery.
In the worst case, you'll find it stupid and never do it again.
Bondage: tips for beginners
The spectrum of types of bondage ranges from wrists tied to the bed frame with plush handcuffs to full body bondage with leather harness. For the beginning it certainly makes sense to that Keep movement restrictions within limits such as gentle toolsand materials to use for shackles that are comfortable to the touch. If that is fun and you want more, you can always increase the intensity and drama.
In any case, with bondage, as with all BDSM practices, a few rules of the game should be observed so that no one is harmed – after all, the following applies to sex as in other areas of life: Safety first. Here are the most important bondage rules when it comes to safety.
1. Trust
Whether you do it with your partner, a friend or a professional, mutual trust is essential in bondage – otherwise instead of lust, fear can turn into panic and the sexual experience instead of exciting and exciting, in the worst case, traumatic.
2. Clear roles
In principle, the roles in bondage can be changed at will, but for each individual "act" it must be clear who takes on which part – lack of clarity can easily lead to misunderstandings, arguments or power struggles. Most people have one role that excites them more than the other. According to surveys in BDSM circles, so-called "switchers" tend to belong to the minority (although there seem to be gender-specific differences that make things more complicated …).
3. Wishes, no-gos, limits
Before you start, you should definitely talk about your limits and preferences. Gag, yes or no? Tighten the shackles or do you prefer to leave them a little more relaxed? In which position can you hold out long enough without cramps (in the wrong parts of the body)? If you have no experience at all, you can of course test all of this before you get down to business.
4. Safeword
Agree on a signal word (e.g. "honeybee", "spirit level", but not necessarily "supercalifragilisticsexpialigetic") that tells the other person that he should stop immediately and your game is over or paused at that moment. Since BDSM practices like bondage can never do without role play, normal communication like "please leave it" or "that hurts" the risk that the sex partner will mistake it for part of the role and just move on. To avoid this risk and not have to constantly ask or think about what is real and what is played – just come up with a safeword.
5. Emergency scissors
In the event that, for once in a while, all the strands do not tear or the shackles have to be loosened quickly and the dominant partner is unable to do so with their bare hands, scissors should be close at hand – ideally, of course, so that nobody accidentally injures themselves, e.g. . B. on the chest of drawers, in a bedside table drawer, on the window sill … Anyone who uses chains or leather for handcuffing, falls back on whatever else the toolbox has to offer.
6. Taboo zone
The neck should either remain completely free during bondage or carefully Be dressed in collars specially made for this purpose (see below), otherwise the trachea, esophagus or vertebrae could be injured – besides, it is about being shackled, not about choking! When gagging, it is essential to ensure that the person being gagged can breathe easily through the nose.
Bondage: The Best Tools
You can usually get bondage tools in well-stocked sex shops and of course online. Even if you just want to experiment and are still unsure whether bondage games are something for you, it is advisable to use such tools and not improvise with HDMI cables, clotheslines and package strings. First, that would falsify the impression, because it will certainly not make the experiment as nice as it could be. Second, it's dangerous!
Here are a few popular and proven bondage tools:
- Handcuffs (padded with leather, plush …)
- Satin ribbons
- Ropes (leather, silk, cotton, nylon …)
- Handcuffs or ankle cuffs
- Hogtie (restraint set for hands and feet)
- Straitjacket
- belt
- collar
- Harness / harness
- Gag
- Blindfold
In bondage sets for beginners, toys such as floggers or small whips are often included – these can be used by the dominant part in consultation with the submissive part as a wonderful addition to role play or foreplay.
Apart from the actual bondage tools, sexy vinyl and leather outfits, hot lingerie or corsets are of course also suitable for erotic bondage – certainly not a must at the beginning, but definitely helpful for that extra portion of eroticism and, if necessary, more intense empathy with the role !
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