Granted: getting caught in sex is anything but cool – but not the end of the world! We’ll tell you how you can react super.
Parents of their children, teenagers of their parents, sister of their brother or passengers of the cabin crew – that people are caught in sex is not unusual. Nevertheless, it embarrasses many. And although it is always said, our society has become so much more permissive, taboo and sex-positive. Well, obviously nothing helps, because sex is and remains something intimate that the people involved would like to have for themselves and enjoy. Exactly that is destroyed in one fell swoop, when suddenly another person pushes …
But in any case, and in any case of sex-caught constellation is the top priority: cool down! Even if it is anything but pleasurable – a disaster is to be caught in sex again, especially not if you react appropriately. The following basic rules apply to every constellation.
Caught in sex: 4 basic rules for a good reaction
1. Action relax (!) Abort
Hardly anything is such an effective mood killer as being caught by someone else in sex, at least for most. Therefore, going on undeterred is usually not an option anyway. To break off stressfully and to pretend that nothing had happened is not the truth either, because that almost seems like an admission of guilt – and one did not do anything wrong. The best thing is to relax completely relaxed from the sexual partner and devotes the attention of the person who has just disturbed one. That commands the respect, after all, she seems to want something from you …
2. Do not make a big deal out of it
Yes, you just got caught in sex and disturbed in an intimate moment – so what? Sex is something natural, every half adult or adolescent has a right to it. That we have sexual needs, as embarrassing as the fact that we eat, drink, sleep or go to the toilet.
- Especially parents who are seen by their child during sex should be as relaxed and natural as possible . When they become hectic and show shame, they only give their child the idea that they have just done something forbidden. Then, of course, it wants to know more and it may possibly be uncomfortable, if you just want to hold any reconnaissance lesson … the best to break the sex so naturally, as if you would close a book and put away, and the little troublemaker to come to bed leave or return to his room.
- But even if you are interrupted as a child by your parents or siblings during sex, the more you do the thing and the more uncomfortable it is YOU, the more attentive and suspicious the witness becomes.
3. Identify limits
If you have not been caught sexing in an airplane toilet or other public place, you can make it clear to the person who interrupted you that they have invaded your privacy without asking . Because just like sex, you have a right, no matter if you’re 15, 32 or 56.
- Parenting parents can use such a situation so wonderfully to teach their child that you knock and a “Come in!” Wait before going to other people’s room.
- By contrast , teenagers caught by their parents now finally have the opportunity to demand from mum and dad the due respect and trust that they, as young adults, have long since been entitled to.
4. Do not have a guilty conscience
No matter how old you are and who caught you in sex, you did not do anything wrong (except maybe the door was not locked …) so you do not have to have a guilty conscience. This is especially important and relevant if the troublemaker wants to talk to you afterwards – typical of the constellation. Parents catch their growing children. Of course, it is not the most diplomatic way of saying “do not concern you, leave me alone!”, But you have no reason to go on the defensive, nor are you accountable to your parents – as long as you have prevented and the sex consensual was, of course!
Sex caught by the parents: 6 possible reactions
- “Did not you teach me to knock before you go to another people’s room?”
- “Yes, you saw right – I too will grow up.”
- “Do not worry, we prevent!”
- “Hi, well, you know Jonas, we’re officially together now.”
- “We just had it in organic and you know: We do not learn for school, but for life.”
- Well, we’re finally quits, remember, back then, 12 years ago, when you and Dad thought I was watching my animated series, there was not any animated series at all … “
Sex caught by the child: 6 possible reactions
- “We played – who loses, makes breakfast!”
- “All right, that’s how it looks when mom and dad love each other very much.”
- “Honey, all right, can not you fall asleep?”
- “Both of us were cold, so we warmed each other.”
- “Oh, hi sparrow, do you think you’re big enough to knock before you enter a room?”
- “We two were hot, so we undressed.”