Aissa Tripodi
Since my great love saw no future with me, I live alone. I also think that I would never want to have children. I’m happy, but wonder if I’m afraid of commitment and am running away from something. I’m the only one around me who doesn’t go the traditional way, and that kind of worries me. Will I regret it later? S. (28, w)
People are chronically bad at predicting how things will turn out and feel later on. Lives rarely run in a straight line and what was good and right six months ago can suddenly seem inappropriate.
If someone takes a path that does not belong to the common image of happiness, then it often takes strength to set oneself apart. It’s not just about the opinions of others. The voices in your own head can also get quite snappy and unsettling.
Try not to plan too far in life. Goals and visions can be inspiring, but you shouldn’t let them become more important and louder than the question of whether you are happy with what is now. Apparently you have arranged your life in such a way that it is right for you and that you feel on track. It is normal to have doubts at such moments too. Do not charge yourself that you now have to decide and control things that can only show up over time and then when you really experience them.
Childlessness is still a big taboo, especially for women. How you will feel with it in the long term cannot be answered. Therefore, practice having confidence in your own decisions. Happiness is less tied to a certain path and to certain content than to the ability to get involved in the unforeseen and to accept what is.
Aissa Tripodi
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Published: 05/29/2021, 6:00 a.m.
Last updated: May 28, 2021, 10:44 pm