Are you the most authentic person you know? Then you will probably hear these sentences more than you would say them yourself.
Being authentic means that a person lives according to their own beliefs and values. For example, an authentic person would not study medicine because it is prestigious or because their parents want them to if they themselves really want to work in the flower trade. The Greek term “authentikos”, from which authentic is derived, is usually translated as “correct, reliable, original”.
As a rule, an authentic way of life turns out to be healthy for the person in question and authentic people often appear pleasant and likeable to those around them. The latter is, among other things, related to the way authentic people communicate: they are honest and show their personality in what they say. With them, the other person can feel where they are and what kind of person they are talking to. The following sentences are therefore rather atypical for authentic people.
5 sentences that authentic people only rarely say
1. If that’s what you want.
Whether in relation to a decision that affects two or more people or in a personal matter, the sentence “If that’s what you want” expresses acceptance on the one hand, but also implies doubts and objections on the other. And this type of communication is rather atypical for authentic people.
They usually communicate clearly and directly. For example, if they have any doubts, they would be more likely to ask: “Do you really want that?” Or openly raise objections: “I think this is a bad idea because…”. In any case, sending hidden messages is not part of the standard repertoire of people who live in harmony with themselves and their values. At least none that leave the other person feeling uncertain.
2. I just said that.
We all sometimes say something that we haven’t thought through enough and that we then want to put into perspective, explain or take back. But that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have or had any meaning or that it doesn’t have an effect. Authentic people understand this and therefore take responsibility for what they say and have said.
Anyone who utters the sentence “I just said that” dismisses their statement as something casual that meant nothing, especially with the word “just”. In doing so, the person makes it the problem and the responsibility of other people if they have taken it seriously or if it does something to them.
Authentic people revise or qualify statements that they subsequently realize were inappropriate or ill-thought out, usually with clearer words such as: “I didn’t mean that,” “I didn’t think” or “I phrased that wrong.” They stand by what they said. Even if they take it back.
3. This is his:her fault.
Authentic people usually don’t see the point in assigning blame – and that’s why they don’t do it. They focus on their area of responsibility and what they can do and control. They trust their fellow human beings, as well as themselves, to bear the consequences of their actions and to take responsibility for their behavior. When damage occurs, authentic people focus their attention on limiting it. And not to clarify the question of who caused it.
4. I would never do that.
Authentic people are generally careful with absolute statements. Although this sometimes makes them appear incompetent and insecure in the eyes of some people, authentic people are happy to accept this – as they prefer to admit their doubts and caution rather than feigning security.
Those who live in harmony with themselves allow themselves to change and develop, sometimes even drastically. Authentic people do not stick to their values and beliefs out of principle, but because they seem right to them. But new experiences and knowledge can change your perspective at any time. With this in mind, instead of saying “I would never do that,” an authentic person would choose something like “I can’t imagine ever doing that” or “I don’t think I would do the same thing in this situation.” .
5. Are you lucky!
Anyone who tells another person that they are lucky implies, on the one hand, that they know what is going on with that person and how they perceive the world, and on the other hand, they express that this person does not deserve the good things that have happened to them. A person who utters this sentence usually wants to give the impression that they are happy for the other person. But envy and devaluation inevitably resonate between the syllables.
Authentic people usually do not presume to judge whether what happens to another person is good luck, bad luck, reward, punishment or anything else. What happens, happens – for reasons that we often cannot all understand. Authentic people express joy for their fellow human beings clearly and clearly, for example with sentences like “How nice! I’m happy for you”. If they feel envious, they have no problem saying: “I would like that too” or “I envy you.”
Sources used: experteditor.com.au, hackspirit.com