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10 tips on how to avoid relationship crises on vacation
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Even a trip to Ikea puts a relationship to the test – a couple’s vacation even more so. 10 tips to help you become inseparable on vacation.
A couple’s holiday is a huge opportunity and risk at the same time
There is no other time of the year that is as charged as a holiday together, which you have been looking forward to for so long – and which both partners often have unrealistic expectations of. After all, the holidays are hyped up as the famous “most beautiful weeks of the year”. And on a journey together, love – finally freed from the burden of everyday life – should blossom like a summer meadow.
It doesn’t matter whether your trip is to Ibiza, Mallorca, New York, Tenerife, Thailand or Lake Constance: Here are 10 tips so that your love vacation doesn’t turn into a disaster and can find its way into the treasure chest of your relationship as a precious memory.
Do that with the money
- Rarely do both partners have the same budget at their disposal. So that you don’t fight about money on the go, you should talk about how much you want and can spend before you go on vacation. And if one person is short on cash, it doesn’t hurt if the person who has more fills the travel budget a little more.
Don’t plan too much
- Don’t plan everything in advance so that you have enough time to get involved with each other. Lounging around together, scurrying back to bed after breakfast, looking deep into each other’s eyes – there should also be room for that on a couple’s holiday.
Leave work at home
- Not possible on a couple’s holiday: work. Keep checking your smartphone. Make “important phone calls”. Open the calculator again after sex. This holiday belongs to you and your loved ones – not your employer.
Don’t know everything better
- “Oh man, I told you so!” That the way is too far, that it’s going to rain, that the restaurant sucks. Sayings like this make the mood in difficult situations even worse. And even if you’re trudging down a dusty street in the blistering heat and your stomach is hanging in the back of your knees – always remember that long sulking can turn whole days of vacation into hell.
Photos are declarations of love
- The sweetheart on the beach, the girlfriend in front of the temple: it is a token of love to photograph the other person without having to ask for it. Because it means I’m happy you’re here with me. And I always want to remember how nice it was between us.
Never without my snack
- It sounds banal, but it can become a problem when travelling: when we (especially women) are hungry, we quickly become grumpy. So always pack a snack that can satisfy your hunger in an emergency. In this way you avoid escalations that would have been completely different with a few bites in the stomach.
It doesn’t work without compromises
- Just like in real life, you have to make compromises on vacation – otherwise you’ll soon find yourself alone. They start with the holiday destination, unless you have identical preferences, and end with the food. Talk about what is important to you – and then find the lowest common denominator. Doesn’t sound that great now, but there’s no other way.
Take it easy
- Arrgh, does he really have to go into EVERY store? Does she have to take pictures all the time? Hasn’t he been talking to the people at the next table for far too long? Take a step back and breathe deeply – and when your pulse has calmed down, talk about your wishes, injuries and ideas. Without accusations.
break up
- Allow yourself to do things alone if you like different things. So you don’t get the feeling of having to do without anything. And in the evening you have something to tell each other – and again very dear because you missed each other.
Adjourns sensitive policy issues
- Sure, if things are burning on your mind, they have to get out, whether you’re on vacation or not. But if they can wait, don’t spoil your vacation by making it clear that you don’t want to move in with him:her for now. Such discussions are painful and you can work through them for the rest of the year.