Daniela Katzenberger does not want to be put under pressure when it comes to youngsters. "If it doesn't work, it's okay."
A sibling for daughter Sophia (4)? Daniela Katzenberger (33) and her husband Lucas Cordalis (52) no longer want to put any pressure on them. "If this happens, we are happy and if it does not work, it is perfectly fine. Our Sophia is a gift enough," explains the cat in an interview with the news agency spot on news. On July 16, the 33-year-old published her new book "The Mafia Mafia can … like to have fun" and let her fans share in her mother's everyday life. The TV blonde also sometimes struggles with self-doubt.
What is the term Mummy Mafia?
Daniela Katzenberger: The Mummy Mafia is a group of mums who think that they invented "being a mom". These mothers are always totally perfect on the outside. Every cake is baked there, the words "sugar" and "sweets" do not exist in this living environment and dirty children's clothing is absolutely taboo. These mothers are professionals in criticizing and know everything better – always. But the criticism is always disguised as "well-intentioned advice". But I don't like advice like that unless I asked for it myself (laughs).
What are you especially criticized by other mothers for?
Katzenberger: For example, for my daughter's clothing style. Sophia is often allowed to choose her clothes herself. I was allowed to do that as a child and I wanted to handle it with my daughter. So it can also happen that she goes to the door in a princess dress or wears a purple polka dot T-shirt with blue striped pants. And these moms can't do that.
How much do you take that to heart?
Katzenberger: If I said that it leaves me cold, I would be lying. Of course that affects me. As a mom, you doubt yourself enough that you don't need another swipe from any mom-to-be mafia supporter.
Do you sometimes yearn for the time before mom life?
Katzenberger: So, when it comes to my body, the way it looked before birth, then yes. The quark bags were still in the penthouse and not on the ground floor. But I wouldn't want to trade anything for that time. Sophia is a gift and I am overjoyed every day when I see her laughing.
How would you describe yourself as a mother?
Katzenberger: I'm not the super cool mom who lets everything go, but neither is the ultra-strict spelled biscuit mom. I am such a mean thing. In any case, I am loving and always show my Sophia how much I love her.
What is particularly important to you in bringing up children?
Katzenberger: I attach great importance to being down-to-earth. I don't want Sophia to be totally spoiled at 18, take everything for granted and don't know how much the butter in the supermarket costs. Our daughter is doing well and should also be aware that there are many children who are worse off and should appreciate everything in life.
Is your daughter more likely to beat you or your husband Lucas?
Katzenberger: She has a lot of me and loves Pink as well, thank goodness. But she's smart too, that's what she got from Papa.
Which one of you is stricter, you or your husband?
Katzenberger. It almost makes up for it, but Lucas is stricter at bedtime and I am tidier. However, I always leave Lucas behind.
Do you always agree on educational issues?
Katzenberger: That would be nice. Then everything would be so much easier, but also boring. There are points where we disagree. But we always manage to find a compromise. That means I prevail and Lucas finally agrees. (laughs)
Do you and Lucas still have time for togetherness despite the child?
Katzenberger: I'll set it up for you because that's important to me. Togetherness is part of a marriage. But I really do it on a schedule. But I try just as much to have time for myself.
Who is more romantic?
Katzenberger: Definitely Lucas. I'm not that romantic. I love old black-and-white films and Disney that are just gushing with kitsch, but I don't need that in real life. It is much more important to me that I can rely on my husband, that he is a good father and takes good care of Sophia and that he loves me. And when he invites me to a cheeseburger, I'm happy.
You put yourself under pressure when it comes to siblings, including sex according to the schedule, how much did that put a strain on your marriage?
Katzenberger: Having sex on schedule didn't put me under so much pressure. I am a very structured person. But this inner pressure that I put on myself put a strain on me. If you are constantly asked about the second child from all sides and it doesn't work, you already doubt yourself and wonder where the problem is. But at some point I stopped stressing and I've been feeling a lot better since then.
Have you given up on plans for a second child?
Katzenberger: No, but we're no longer so determined. If this happens, we are happy and if it does not work, it is perfectly fine. Our Sophia is a gift enough.
Sophia celebrates her 5th birthday at the end of August. How are you going to spend the day?
Katzenberger: We are planning. After the last great birthday party, it is difficult to somehow surpass that or find something else that Sophia might like as much as Princess Elsa. I think we're going on a great trip.