In this third episode of our series on fantasies, it is Julia who confides. She dreams of having a threesome with her partner and a second man.
Fantasizing is natural, healthy, and almost essential to having a fulfilling sex life. Fantasies can be very simple and easily realized, or on the contrary much more complex. None are shameful, shocking, scandalous, ridiculous or absurd. Whether you are in a couple or single, whether you have an “unbridled” or rather “quiet” sexuality, fantasy is an integral part of our sex life. Sex with a colleague, sex in a swimming pool, watching strangers, make love in a public place…everyone has (at least) one unfulfilled and sometimes unacknowledged fantasy. Testimony.
I have been in a relationship with Jean for twenty years. We have a sex life that I would describe as quite fulfilling. We make love regularly, after a few calmer years when our children were small. We already talked about it with my husband, without ever going through with it, but I always had the fantasy of having a threesome with him and another man. Younger, much younger, I once had a threesome with a college classmate and her boyfriend, and that experience stuck with me.
“I feel their four hands on my skin”
As I imagine it, my fantasy is not so difficult to realize. We go, Jean and I, to a popular bar in the city center. We let’s choose together a man who seduces us both, then we will approach it. I imagine him to be tall and dark, broad-shouldered, a little unlike my companion who is blond, my height and has a very lean marathon runner physique. The three of us go to a small hotel. I let them both caress me simultaneously. I feel their four hands on my skin, then their mouths. This is an “egocentric” fantasy since my husband and this stranger do not interact with each other. They are on the other hand united to give me pleasure. Once naked all three, we go on the big bed. We give free rein to our imagination.
I will dare without complex new positions, for example simultaneous doggy style and fellatio, excited by giving pleasure while receiving it. My spouse would also enjoy watching me with this stranger, while stroking. We love each other enough, we know each other enough, for this experience not to break us, but on the contrary, to put some spice back between us. And if it goes well, why not then, repeat with a stranger this time…
The opinion of Margaux Terrou, sexologist
Margaux Terrousexologist, couple therapist and speaker explains that this common fantasy reflects a need to be the center of attention.
“The threesome fantasy is one of the most common. As much for men as for women. What pleases in this configuration is both a feeling of power, and the response to a desire to be the center of attention. Be careful all the same before embarking on the practice: make sure you are a solid duo! Adding a third person to the sexual relationship is not trivial, and it can also bring the risk of weakening or even breaking up the couple. Especially if it’s a way for you to fix it. Also be careful, it may sometimes be that one of the two members of the couple has more desire than the other to realize this fantasy, the total consent of all the partners is as always the number one rule..”
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