Some parents realize that their children are not at all the same at school and at home. For better, but mostly for worse…
The start of the school year is coming in a few days and after the summer holidays placed under the sign of late bedtimes and meals at all hours, some parents are afraid that the change will be brutal. You have to prepare a few days or even a few weeks before D-Day in order to get the children used to finding a rhythm! After all, whether they experience their very first return to school or not, it is a big upheaval in children’s lives to meet the new teacher, to sit in the classroom and especially to do homework in the evening when they return to school. House.
A mother and writer, Samm Davidson, confided in the site Scary Mommy. She says that one of her children is a real terror at home and that this worries her a lot for the start of the school year. But above all she noticed that every year, despite difficult behavior at home, the teachers are very satisfied and say that he is a very good student. The mother does not understand how this is possible.
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The child is a terror at home but a model student at school
Samm Davidson recounts with great humor when she realized that her son was a model student: “I think I held my breath the whole way down the hall from school to my son’s parent-teacher meeting in elementary school. These things stress me out. With four quite expressive and explosive kids, I usually prepare for the worst. So, with half a buttock clinging to an elementary school chair and my way too high legs tucked under the little table, I crossed my hands, made eye contact with his teacher, took a deep breath and I braced myself for the impact. She started by handing me a sheet with graphs and figures. After a quick look, I had the impression that everything was fine. She then talked about her friendships, her politeness and her kindness. A little positive before the negative, I thought – great strategy, I respect it. Then came some suggestions for books to read at home for active reading engagement, and then she asked if I had any questions. That was it – an absolutely remarkable review of a calm, rarely upset and overall very respectful student. Then why is he a demon at home?!” Some parents will surely recognize themselves in this testimony!
Samm Davidson has found why her child’s behaviors are so different. She came across a video posted on Tik Tok by child therapist Lindsay Adams. She explains : “They’re on their best behavior, putting on masks or whatever words you want to use for that, all day at school. When they come home, they take off their backpacks and all their masks come off with it.” It is otherwise known as collapse of the restraint. These two totally different behaviors can be explained… And unfortunately, we can’t do much about it!
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Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…