When you start a romantic relationship and then want to keep it, there are some things not to do. And they are not necessarily obvious … Here is the list according to the therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab. Bonus: it also works for friendships!
Trained therapist and “expert in limits”, Nedra Glover Tawwab distils on her Instagram account and her blog valuable advice (in English) to build harmonious relationships with others. Its philosophy is as follows: “Most relationship problems come from a lack of boundaries and confidence”. So these are her tips for creating healthy relationships with others and yourself. They are valid for romantic relationships, but also friendly or family.
Stop thinking that other people can read your mind
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- “Stop avoiding conflict: things will never get better if the other person doesn’t know there is a conflict”
- “Stop trying to win arguments: find solutions instead of focusing on who is right and who is wrong. The goal is connection, not victory.”
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- “Stop denigrating the feelings of other people: your feelings and feelings are valid, just like those of others.”
- “Stop trying to convince people to think like you: as long as someone respects what you need, you don’t have to have exactly the same opinions on everything. It is not possible. , nor ideal. “
- “Stop waiting for people to read your mind: they can’t know what you want if you haven’t shared it with them. Being clear about what you want prevents resentment. “
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- “Stop wanting someone to fill all of your needs: no one can be everything for you, or meet all of your emotional expectations. You need the attention of a community, which means you have to find people. who can support you on different aspects. “
- “Stop asking people to respect your boundaries if you don’t respect theirs: boundaries are a healthy part of the relationship for both sides.”