Do you think that routine has settled into your relationship? An expert gives 4 signs that could prove it.
Routine often scares couples. It often sets in when the two people have lived together for a long time and know each other by heart, and this is also the case with stars! Tender words give way to automatisms, the program for the day is already established, everything is anticipated. An expert delivered to the Journal des Femmes website the four signs that can show that a couple has fallen into a routine.
Gabrielle Adrian, sexologist and founder of the sex therapy and couple therapy support platform Hello Hédoné, explained the beginnings of routine, and the signs that should click to get back on track and ensure that passion is reborn. This involves several tools: communication, one of the pillars of the couple, little touches or even words of love… In short, everything that is present at the start of a relationship.
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The 4 signs that indicate that routine is settling into your relationship
According to Gabrielle Adrian, the first sign is that you no longer communicate : “For example, conversations are purely limited to daily tasks and obligations”, explains the sexologist. The expert’s advice to remedy this? Set up a weekly meeting around coffee, for example, to take the time to talk with your partner. The second sign is that of always do the same activitiesand lack spontaneity: “It is necessary to listen. If I see that you are not doing well, I am not going to offer you the usual Netflix just because that is what we generally do on Tuesday evenings. I can for example suggest going out, doing something different.” It’s part of the evolution of the relationship.”delivers the expert.
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The third sign is that of put your desires after those of your partner : “Focusing on the needs and desires of the other can be dangerous for the relationship. If he doesn’t like going to the museum, but I am passionate about art, I will go less depending on him “, which should not be the case. Fourth and final sign indicated by Gabrielle Adrian: no longer be intimate and no longer have tender gestures. The way to fix it: let your partner know : “When we’re faced with a routine that doesn’t satisfy us, we have to be pro-active. If I have the impression that we’re in a routine, if I need something else, I don’t blame not the other, but I’m breaking the routine.”
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Originally from Toulouse, I moved to Cannes in 2021. It is therefore very close to the sea and palm trees that I have been writing for Au Féminin since 2022. Accustomed to …