Simulation in bed concerns almost all human beings who have sex. Thus, the male sex is just as affected by the phenomenon as the female sex. But what do the statistics say? What is the proportion of men and women who simulate regularly?
In the collective imagination, it is assumed that in men, sex is “mechanical” and orgasm, systematic: that it suffices that he caresses himself a little or that he embarks on a sexual relationship to enjoy . If the cliché exists, it is because there is a grain of truth… Indeed, they are 90% have an orgasm every time they have sex.
However, that does not mean that they never simulated. If we tend to think that the practice is reserved for women… We are far from the truth. Indeed, our male counterparts are also affected, and many have thus simulated at least once in their life – 42% More precisely*. On the female side, the practice is a little more widespread: two thirds of them (that is 59%) claim to have already “feigned to reach orgasm in their lifetime”.
A slight gap is therefore observed between the different sexes: hence the term “orgasm gap” or “orgasmic gap” used by specialists. But this gap is widening daily…
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Here is the real share of men and women who simulate regularly and almost every time they have sex
It is one thing to simulate punctually, it is quite another to simulate regularly. And there, the gap between men and women is much larger. In this sense, 11% of women say they simulate regularly, against only 1.7% of men. In view of existing stereotypes, these figures are hardly surprising.
However, what concerns us more is the why of howand in particular men’s side. Indeed, it is easy to understand why women fake it: we can put forward the argument of anorgasmia, since only about 10% of them have an orgasm with each sexual intercourse, and that 1 woman out of 4 n didn’t come during his last report. But what explains why men do it even though they almost systematically taste pleasure?
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Sex: what are the reasons that push the man to simulate?
The simulator has its reasons that the woman is unaware of… However, it is a pretext shared with the person who encourages her to simulate. Indeed, it is becausehe thinks first of the other he pretends to reach orgasm. He doesn’t want to hurt his partner, to make her think that she hasn’t given enough pleasure and even less to question her abilities… So, he fakes it. But far from being a purely disinterested approach, it is also and above all for himself that he is tempted to “play the comedy”. Maïa Mazaurette explains at the microphone of French Radio that 71% of them do it because they are actually looking to increase their arousal during the act…
So yes, we are destroying a strong stereotype concerning men and their propensity to pretend… But the latter’s “sexual egocentrism” comes before the rest, and this cliché remains a reality. Admittedly, they are not only focused on their pleasure and their own ability to enjoy: they also think of the other… But always less than of themselves.
*Figures taken from a study conducted by Ifop for Online Seduction, on a sample of 1210 people, representative of the French population aged 18 and over, January 2019
Open-minded and in love with life, Emilie likes to decipher the new phenomena that shape society and relationships today. Her passion for the human being motivates her to write…