If we all dream of being able to make someone fall in love with us, we don’t always know how to go about it. A therapist delivered his simple, but very precise method. We explain to you.
Can we really make someone falls in love with us ? To this question, many will answer… no. Or only in the movies, when the hero finds the magic elixir that will finally drive the woman he has always secretly desired madly in love. But, indeed, that only happens in the movies.
In real life, on the other hand, there are a method Much more natural For arouse feelings in a person that you enjoy. Indeed, as reported Psychologies magazinea therapist named Ken Page delivered his expertise to the site Mind Body Green.
Create a bond by mixing intimacy and vulnerability
According to him, what makes people fall in love is “a mix of real vulnerability, desire, sexuality and romance which creates a mixture – much like the Holy Grail – of safety, excitement, availability and shared love”. To arrive at this famous “Holy Grail”, the specialist explains that it is first necessary to gradually deepen intimacy. It is gradually create a closeness and a deep bondspending time and sharing vulnerability with the other. Then use your body language, which is an effective way to create desire and attraction, two pillars of love. For example, try eye contact and touch.
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Get out of your comfort zone while staying true to yourself
It is also important to get out of your comfort zone. While there’s nothing wrong with opting for traditional movie and restaurant outings, sharing a unusual moment or live a adventure with someone tightens the bonds and deepens the relationship. “Doing things that are a little on the edge is not only exciting, but it will help bring you closer,” says Ken Page. But above all, it is necessary to stay yourself. “A lot of times in relationships, people end up losing the attraction they have for each other. It’s not because they’re not attractive anymore, but because the novelty has worn off,” he assures. To avoid disappointment after a while, stay true to yourself.
Be patient and don’t force things
Never forget to try to understand the other. Everyone needs to feel seen, heard and understood. Being interested in someone will help them fall in love with you. Also offer small gestures of kindness and tenderness, as regularly as you can. It will remind the other how much they mean to you. Next to that, stay patient. True love takes time, so don’t rush and let things happen naturally. Finally, don’t try to force things. “Love is a force in itself that doesn’t (or at least shouldn’t) require strength from you,” the therapist concludes. Because “If love isn’t genuine, it won’t last”.
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