She spends her time giving her opinion on your couple or on your way of educating your children? Here’s how to meet your mother-in-law kindly.
As we know, the rivalry between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often a great classic of family patterns. If we sometimes have the impression that our mother-in-law is invasive and takes pleasure in making our home unlivable, understand that it is not always done on purpose. In effect, some mothers are simply overprotective and forget that their child is now “big”. They also do not accept that a “stranger” comes to interfere in their life and take their place when they have always been the only great love in the life of their child.
So, subconsciously, the intrusive mother-in-law is competing with you. She wants to continue taking care of her child as she always has. Unfortunately, this pushes her to have behaviors and attitudes that can hurt and damage the relationship.
How to react to an intrusive mother-in-law?
If you find that your mother-in-law is intrusive, there are several solutions to respond to her kindly without offending her. First, try to stay as calm as possible about his behavior. Sometimes, if your spouse’s mom is invasive, it’s a pathology. You have to accept that no one can change it. Don’t cause unnecessary fightstry to stay calm, save your energy for when it really goes beyond the limits.
On the other hand, if the invasion intensifies, be firm. It is important to set limits early on calmly and firmly when necessary. Don’t be fooledbut try not to shout or disrespect him.
If the derogatory remarks of your mother-in-law are increasing, you can try to use the principle of “positive thank you”. Go for answers like “It’s a good idea”, “Thanks I will try” or “Yes you are right”, even though in reality you do the complete opposite once her back is turned. It’s a way for her to feel useful.