Child psychologist Caroline Goldman broached the subject of school bullying a few days before the start of the school year. A subject that is debated but the psychologist affirms her positions.
Back to school is fast approaching and the subject that comes up the most is bullying. The new government law concerning the change of school for bullying pupils once again puts this subject on the table. This scourge, which can have dramatic consequences, is a great anguish for parents who are increasingly vigilant in the face of warning signs. But there are still many things to put in place so that school bullying no longer exists.
And for Caroline Goldman, there is no question of blaming only schools. According to the child psychologist, school bullying is much deeper than we think. On France Inter, Caroline Goldman has her own column where every day she gives her opinion on a subject related to children. On July 31, she therefore deepened the causes of school bullying: “I deplore the caricatural idea that “school bullying” has been conveyed for a few years in the media, with all the fears that this is likely to carry for parents.who dread having a bullying child just as much as a bullied child.”
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There is not just a dysfunction in schools
Caroline Goldman does not stop at the dysfunctions that have been pointed out in schools. According to her, it is necessary to look much further to understand the mechanism of school bullying. The psychologist explains: “The reflex of pointing out the full responsibility of teachers and schools in the failure to protect their child, sometimes harassed for years, seems to me to be dishonest and far too partial. In my little patients, the fact of finding oneself within a circuit of relational violence, on one side or the other, is always the indicator of dysfunctions in the management of aggressiveness within the family. Either the child replays a climate of tension and violence (suffered or acted upon), or he expels onto the social scene a (normal) aggressiveness that could not be addressed to his parents (because absent, or unavailable, themselves concerned, etc.).”
There is therefore no question of putting on one side the “completely guilty executioner and a completely innocent victim”. Caroline Goldman continues: “I would rather speak of a psychic energy shared by the two parts, which excite each other in a circulatory mode from which they obviously have to be released. My work as a psychologist in the face of these children consists of less burdening the establishments with being the policeman, this can only have a superficial and transitory impact. We must flush out the psychic dynamics in families and put an end to them at the root through parental guidance, in the presence of the child. We often realize that what the child lacked in his difficulties to manage the conflict, his parents also lacked. The media coverage of school bullying would therefore distort the image that parents have of it, according to Caroline Goldman.
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