"There is no more time to waste, it is urgent to live" could be the mantra guiding your aspiration for a new life.
We are starting this week dedicated to this pivotal period in life that is menopause with Sophie Kune, founder of the Instagram account @ menopause.stories, a series of intimate and unbridled conversations which aim to break the archetypes posed on this period.
In the collective unconscious, menopause signals the end of life.
Because we are no longer able to procreate, therefore to give birth, we should simply step aside and make way for a new generation of fresh and desirable women.
In the collective unconscious, the postmenopausal woman should therefore agree to put away cars, in the best case, make jams all without making any noise.
It would not fail to disturb more!
In the collective unconscious, the menopausal woman goes from "beautiful to old". There will no longer be times when she will love or be loved for her attributes. Over the years, his power of seduction has worn off.
This is how nature seems to have decided it or at least, this is how it has always been presented to us.
The menopause in question
In real life, so-called middle-aged women aspire (and yet live) (to) something else entirely.
It would certainly be incongruous to hide how upsetting this period can be in every sense of the word. Personally, I experienced menopause quite abruptly since I received it via an artificial injection, in order to avoid a hysterectomy. That day, I didn't know I would suffer so much. I didn't expect anything in particular either. And then everything changed.
Feeling overwhelmed.
Physically first.
Hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, joint pain, fatigue and vagueness.
In barely a month, I had become a different person.
Psychologically then.
There, I'll talk about a squall that slumbers inside you and suddenly rises without warning.
How to face him? Is there a protective wall to prevent uppercut?
Hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, joint pain, fatigue and vagueness. In barely a month I had become a different person.
I have to be honest with you.
Where menopause passes, everything flies away, or rather everything comes back together (also connects).
From childhood to today, you will rewind the movie of your life and nothing will be spared.
Successes and missed dates, wounds of love and unresolved grief.
Your skin will scream "I'm hot", your nights will remain with your eyes open.
Your inner balance will rock along with your hormones.
You will probably cry a little, a lot and then you will get up.
Towards a new chapter
After the storm comes appeasement.
Your awareness of the world is not the same anymore.
Certainly, your body is changing, you will no longer give birth, but inside you a new power is revealed (awakening).
As if the end of the rules gave the Go to a new freedom.
You are queen of your destiny.
Whether you filled in all the boxes or not, a page has turned to open up a whole new field of possibilities.
What about your family life?
Your children may leave the nest leaving you alone with your partner or with yourself.
You may also need to support your parents who have become too old to care for them.
In any case, menopause initiates a change, a pivot.
What about your life as a couple?
Married women (or women in a relationship) are more assertive and take the reins in hand, while others will seek new romantic perspectives and divorce.
And then there are those who turn to a new sexuality and thrive with another woman.
Everything is possible.
What about your professional life?
There too everything is moving.
You may as well feel invisible and opt for a new orientation or on the contrary favor part time to devote yourself to a passion left dormant.
There is no age to open up to new adventures.
It is urgent to live
"There is no more time to waste, it is urgent to live" could be the mantra guiding your aspiration for a new life.
Moreover, as Lavoisier so rightly said, "Nothing is lost, nothing is created, everything is transformed".
This is how life goes, which, you will understand, obviously does not end with menopause, fortunately indeed.
Otherwise what (infinite) sadness!
Sophie kune