Mixing, swinging, triolism … libertine practices are very codified and all meet a very precise definition. Tempted or just curious? Immerse yourself in the phantasmagorical world of mixism.
So-called group sexuality involves several levels of exchange but also different philosophies that unite their followers. Whether it is practiced in two, three, four or more, between men or women exclusively, or without any distinction, sexual debauchery offers a number of possibilities that will appeal to everyone according to their desires to share their partner. Located between the side-by-side and the real swinging, the mixism could well seduce the couples in search of new feelings.
Mixism, this libertinism without penetration
If mixing belongs to group sexualities close to swinging, it has the particularity of excluding any penetration outside a couple. With many, therefore, couples and singles unite in sexual practices but penetrations, when they take place, only take place within official duets. Born in the 18th and 19th centuries among the intellectual elites who practiced it clandestinely, mixtureism experienced a resurgence in popularity during the AIDS years as it reduced the risk of infection from STDs. More sensual than sexual, games between mixers are therefore more akin to flirting than pure swinging.
Caresses, kisses … what practices for mixers?
Among the mixists, there are two schools: the one which excludes and the one which admits oral sex (blowjobs and cunnilingus in particular). Caresses, kisses, glances, sensuality is at the heart of mixist practices, whose philosophy also favors the aesthetics of beautiful settings particularly appreciated by couples who are sometimes cautious at the idea of passing the course of love together. As the first step towards other more advanced group experiences or exciting games which are enough for partners wishing to go a little further than love for two without going beyond this stage, mixing has made many followers in the world of debauchery.
Blowjobs, cunnilingus or mutual masturbations, other mixers like to flirt in all ways to please each other, pushing these sexual exchanges to the maximum while remaining on the extreme frontier that separates them from penetration. After the couples are excited by sharing oral caresses or not, they then meet and, very often, make love next to each other, then practicing side-by-side (see after ).
Whether it is a first step towards libertinism or an art of loving which absolutely satisfies them, mixed couples appreciate in this "soft swinging" the respect and the gentleness of respectful libertine practices, which are meant to be the opposite of pornography.
Candaulism, triolism, mixing… what's the difference?
Love together never ceases to fascinate without necessarily knowing all the differences or definitions. As we have seen, mixing is different from swinging by the absence of non-couple penetration.
- The threesome, it induces that the love with several is practiced with three, whether it is a couple with a third person or that you meet two distinct individuals and that you all three decide to make you this famous. "Plan" that runs through the minds of some.
- Candaulism, on the other hand, is practiced when one of the two partners of a couple decides to withdraw to observe or listen to the other having sex with another man or another woman.
- As for polyamory, it differs from libertine practices in the sense that it simply induces that an individual has several official partners and not just one, but where there is no question of either love for several or adultery, having “exclusive” sex with everyone.
- Finally, side-by-side is practiced by couples having sex next to each other, but without ever mixing or even touching those who make love at their side (for auditory, visual or simply pleasure). the thrill of being watched yourself having sex).
Where and how to practice mixing?
In France, it is in Paris that mixing is most practiced since, according to a study, Parisians are three times more numerous (15%) than inhabitants of other regions (5%) to have already practiced mixing.
Spicing up your married life without "really" being wrong, it is with this idea that many neo-mixists are interested in this practice. On specialized forums, many explain that, being too jealous, they could not bear to see their partner penetrated or being penetrated by other men or women, but that the sensuality of the mixed art of living suits them. Before getting started, going to discuss with your followers may be a good idea to understand the state of mind of this practice and the possible brakes that could make us give up (others explain that the mixism could have been right of their couple).
Well known to fans of Cap d'Agde, where libertinism is practiced in all serenity during naughty afternoons or evenings in clubs open to voyeurists, swingers or followers of side-by-side, many other clubs, saunas or hammams in other regions of France offer the possibility of mixing practices without risk and in complete confidence. When they decide, in all mutual trust, to take the mixist step, several solutions are available to couples: go and meet another couple by posting a message on a dating site and chat with them, sometimes for a while. several days or weeks to build trust before meeting afterwards in a hotel or at one or the other. Others prefer to go to a libertine club in their region – which sometimes devote evenings to mixing – and engage in practice with strangers. Note: you can go to a libertine club without actually taking action. As for consent, it remains, like everywhere else, obvious.
For the experience to go well, the experienced mixers explain that it is necessary to have established the foundations of trust with your partner: is it ok for fellatio, cunnilingus, kissing with other men or women? Deciding together on a "safeword" (a little word to tell the other that you are quitting) is also advisable to get the most out of the experience. Many mixers and practicing swingers also explain that often, during a first experience, whether in a libertine club, in a hotel or in a private place, couples are too shy and can be disappointed by their relationship because they remain passive and do not dare to fully live this fantasy that has often occupied them for months. So, if you've taken all the advice, weighed together the possible risks to your relationship, and both concluded that you really wanted to, go for it and enjoy!