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8 parenting habits that are not good for our children
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On the “Reddit” platform, parents have discussed which parenting traps they do not want to fall into.
As a mother or father, we are not educational machines programmed for “perfect”. And so we may find ourselves doing things that we know are not good for our children. That’s not bad at all – as long as we are honest with ourselves and try to get rid of these habits. On the “Reddit” platform, parents exchanged ideas about which parenting methods we shouldn’t allow to be incorporated into our everyday lives.
Parent habits that are not good for our children
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“Tell the children about their personal problems. For example, ‘Your father is impossible, he didn’t even do the dishes. I hate my marriage’. Your children are not your therapists and they cannot solve the problem either. You should go with them speak to the partner or a therapist. “
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“Comparing them to siblings. The good old ‘Why can’t you be a little more like your brother / sister?’ does nothing for self-esteem and can prevent children from developing their own personality. “
3 of 8
“You can tell me, I’m not angry,” but then punish the child. Then you don’t have to be surprised if the children stop telling you. “
4 of 8
“Be overly cautious. If you protect children too much and never let them fail, it makes them less independent. It is good to fail sometimes. Just provide stable support.”
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“Intruding into their privacy. If your child does not show a serious drug problem or self-destructive behavior, it will do more harm than good to their psyche. Likewise, trust in their parents. It doesn’t matter whether it’s cell phone tracking or installing spy software.” or removing your room door. ”
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“Gaslightening the child means making them believe something wrong just to get yourself out of the affair.”
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“Not explaining to you why you made a decision. Like saying,” You have to do this because I’m your mom / dad and I’m saying that. End of discussion: “Instead, you can involve the children by explaining to them why a certain decision makes sense. Children understand more than many parents believe. Just give them a chance!”
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“Play down children’s emotions by ignoring them or telling them to be quiet.”
The articles were originally published in English – we have translated them into German for you. If you wanted to exchange ideas with other parents about parenting methods and habits, then have a look Urbia forum or in the BRIGITTE.Community. Here you can find forum threads on all kinds of parenting topics!