If women apparently have their “G-spot”, men have the “G-spot”.point P“. This area would in fact be located at the level of the prostate. The size of a chestnut, this organ only exists in the male body.
With the right gestures, it would release a unique pleasure, just as interesting as the ejaculatory orgasm, called “prostate orgasm“. The experience is little explored, even considered a taboo. However, achieving this pleasure is a useful experience in many ways. You still need to know how to go about it. Alexandra Vatimbella, clinical sexologist and couples therapist, enlightens us on the secrets of the male orgasm.
Prostatic orgasm: what actions to achieve it?
Unlike the classic orgasm, caused by ejaculation, the prostate orgasm is a real discovery for men. It is obtained through prolonged anal penetration and is practiced individually or in pairs. Pleasure is provided by very precise stimulation of the prostate, which is located under the bladder and in front of the rectum. “It can also be stimulated externally by focusing on the area between the scrotum and the anus, but it will be much less intense.“, explains Alexandra Vatimbella.
Internally, this area can be stimulated through the anus, with a finger or an object. “First, we can insert something, like an anal plug, to see how you feel, then go after the prostate by stimulating it. With one finger, you can go there by caressing it, touching it, always with lubricant, while directing your finger towards the front of the pelvis“, guides us the sexologist. The use of prostate massagers is also possible: the contraction of the anal sphincters will move the object in the rectum and this movement will exert delicate pressure on the prostate. “Some of these massagers have a part that presses on the area between the anus and the scrotum, which will make it easier to achieve a prostate orgasm.“, specifies our expert.
Prostate orgasm: how to prepare for it?
Some precautions must be taken before attempting to achieve this ecstasy. The anus area is particularly tight, so prepare for anal penetration by gently stimulating this area with lubricant. “Do not insert anything into the anus. Choose an object or sex toy with a base so that it does not fit completely and to avoid any accidents“, advises Alexandra Vatimbella.
Can all men have a prostate orgasm?
If all men can experience this orgasm, the sexologist points out that it is, however, possible not to feel pleasure during the first sessions with insertion into the rectum. Achieving prostate orgasm can be learned and built, so don’t worry. The pleasure will set in as the body gets used to and indulges in this practice. The experience can also be destabilizing, as it differs from the classic orgasm. “In some cases, theOrgasm occurs without erection or ejaculation. The person will concentrate on this area, so the erection may fall, but it can also be combined“, she explains.
A still discreet practice
In today’s society, anal penetration and the sensations it provides are still tinged with certain stereotypes, which can dampen enthusiasm. Often associated with homosexuality, it is nevertheless a practice that occurs in any sexual context with a man. “If people want to do it and don’t do it because it represents latent homosexuality, it’s a shame, because they prevent themselves from discovering their body and interesting sensations in terms of pleasure.“, explains Alexandra Vatimbella. Conversely, the specialist also affirms that one may be confronted with an injunction to practice this act, whereas it should only be carried out when the desire to do so tasting is sincere.”This is not a practice that everyone should do. If we want to, we do it. Otherwise, we don’t do it“, she summarizes.
This type of experience is personal, and is part of the exploration of one’s body. This process sometimes requires guidance. For this, Alexandra Vatimbella evokes “The Treaty of Aneros”, an educational guide accessible online which provides numerous tips for achieving prostate orgasm. If the author reminds us that a beginner must go through the discovery of his own body to enjoy this orgasm, he also explains how achieving the latter can be beneficial when a man maintains a sexual life with a woman. “According to him, the discovery of the prostate orgasm allows men to better understand female orgasm“, explains Alexandra Vatimbella. “Men who experience this orgasm describe it as female pleasure: intense with sensations in the form of waves. So, being interested in it can make them become good lovers, because they approach things differently“, she concludes. Letting yourself go towards this ecstasy can therefore make all the difference.
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