Our lives don’t have to be spectacular to be just right for us personally. However, if we observe these phenomena in ourselves, it may indicate that something is not quite right.
No one can say with certainty what constitutes a good life and how or whether we might waste our lives. We sometimes experience the world so differently – and are so different – that we can assume that there is no one way or one way of life that suits us all and is right for all of us.
Most people have a good sense of who they are, what they want, and what life is best for them. Some by consciously dealing with it, others without doing so. Nevertheless, it can happen to all of us that our instincts occasionally fail us or that, due to some circumstances, we stray from our path and suddenly lead a life that is not entirely right for us. Fortunately, we are usually good at correcting this as soon as we notice it. And we could notice it, for example, in the following observations.
3 Signs You’re Not Living Your Best Life
1. You care a lot and longingly about other people’s lives.
There is nothing wrong with being interested in other people, looking into their lives and, if necessary, drawing inspiration and ideas from them. It’s also okay to be jealous of some things that our fellow human beings have and we don’t at the moment. However, if it is impossible for us to notice how other people live or what they do without feeling a lack and a longing, this may be an indication that our own lives are not fulfilling and not enough for us.
What can often help in this case is, as a first step, to pay less attention to other people’s lives and more to our own. It’s not that we can no longer be interested in what our friends do or think or what books, restaurants or vacation destinations others are enthusiastic about. But if it hurts us almost every time to scroll through our timeline and we immediately feel restless and under pressure as soon as someone raves about their job, family or apartment, that’s obviously not doing us any good and we can’t do it for now The best way to protect yourself from this is to reduce external impressions.
That doesn’t explain what we’re actually missing or what’s wrong with our lives. However, it creates better conditions for us to find out. By looking at other people, we usually can’t do that anyway.
2. Your main goal in the morning is to get the day over with.
Admittedly, that moment in the evening when you lie down in bed and stretch out never gets old. But if we think about this moment with longing and impatience most days in the morning or relatively early in the day, that doesn’t necessarily mean that our life is particularly suitable for us at the moment.
If we often wake up primarily feeling displeased about the day and immediately think of a lot of things that we have to do or endure in an unpleasant way, we are obviously missing moments of joy in our everyday lives and activities that we do want to pursue and would like to pursue. Or we don’t have the vision to see them. Before we completely change our lives in this case, we can try thinking about something we look forward to every morning (other than going to bed in the evening!). And if we can’t think of anything, we’ll just do something.
If that doesn’t help, we may have no choice but to look at what annoys or tires us so much about our days that we don’t want to face them at all. Because all in all, they are our lives – and it would be a shame if we wanted to put that behind us in the first place.
3. You live contrary to your beliefs.
We make many life decisions at a time when we are not yet able to make them very well, at least not finally. For example, many people don’t know enough about themselves and their strengths and weaknesses when they are 16 or 17 years old and have to choose a career, but they still have to make the decision first. Sometimes an opportunity suddenly presents itself to us – a promotion, for example – and we jump at it before it’s too late, only to realize afterwards that it wasn’t the right choice for us.
Through such events, we can easily slip into a life that does not actually correspond to our values and beliefs – which may have only become clear to us later or have changed. We then live in a constant inner conflict and conflict with what we do and fight our way through our tasks primarily with discipline and self-control.
In such a case, it is usually helpful to allocate less space, if possible, to the element in our life that does not fit with our beliefs and more space to another. There are only a few decisions we make in our lives that we have to stick to unreservedly for all of our time. As long as we live, we can change our path and adapt many things.
Sources used: hackspirit.com, medium.com