Energy thieves are hiding everywhere in our lives – and not just in other people, but above all in ourselves. We clean up: We prefer to separate ourselves from these people, habits and things.
The problem with the energy thieves in our everyday lives: we usually don’t even notice them. Rather, these are unconscious things, actions or habits that are completely normal for us. Those we think belong there. That life has to be like that. And that we would have to endure them. We only realize how much energy some things have cost us when we keep them away from us.
Every person has their own energy thieves that drain their strength. These may be people. Or even outdated ideas and demands that have become anchored in our society and our minds at some point. Ready to unmask and clear out together?
Energy thieves that we now kindly bring to the door
1. Guilt makers
“I was so happy,” “You never have time,” “But I can’t do it alone.” You’ve already overcome yourself and been honest, canceled a meeting, said “no” once and refused a request. When you hear sentences like that, you’re bound to feel guilty. By the way: They are heard particularly often by people who are otherwise always there for everyone and want to please everyone. Anyone who dares to listen to their own needs should not be punished for it by those who make people feel guilty. Stop it – you can talk openly with people about what such words make you feel. If it doesn’t help, the only option is to distance yourself. Because that is emotional blackmail.
2. Buying clothes that are too small
Do you always only buy a 36/38, but the dress tugs at the waist? Buy the 40. Or leave the garment hanging straight away. No fashion brand in the world is worth making us hold our breath, hold our stomachs and feel uncomfortable – because it shows in our face. Clothing sizes seem to be getting smaller and smaller, and they vary from store to store. Let’s stop letting them spoil our fashion and from now on buy what fits, not what should fit according to the clothing size.
3. Shame
Why are we actually ashamed of everything? The next time you worry about turning red, messing up, or messing up, think about what you would think if it happened to someone else instead of you. Guaranteed nothing bad. So: Shame is a huge energy drain in our lives and we can only overcome it together – with honesty and humor.
4. Compare with people on social media
We know that the brave new world on social media is not reality. And yet we find ourselves scrolling through Instagram feeds of people who seem somehow more beautiful, cooler, more relaxed or more stylish. Does nothing for us and especially not for our self-confidence. Let’s follow people who present themselves honestly on social media – or save time and put our cell phones away more often.
5. Wanting to change others
We often not only strive to constantly optimize ourselves – but unfortunately also our environment. How many people out there are unhappy in relationships because they still believe that their partner will become Prince Charming? By the way, it’s not nice for the other person to constantly want to be changed. Let’s take people as they are. By the way, this also takes a huge burden off your own shoulders by no longer constantly being responsible for others.