psychology
We shouldn’t let ourselves be talked into these 5 things anymore
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Learning to trust yourself is not that easy when people are all happy to throw in their two cents. We start small and take on 5 things that we no longer allow ourselves to be interfered with.
Do you remember when the curtains in the house next door used to move when someone else’s car was parked in front of them? When the neighbor came home with a new partner – or perhaps a new spiky hairstyle? Whether in the village or in the city: People have always tended to evaluate each other in a certain way.
In a fast-moving time like today, everyday life is characterized by changes. Nevertheless, what is at the heart of a change, namely doing something differently in the first place, often still causes an uproar – be it just the flapping curtains in the neighboring house or the raised eyebrows of a colleague. You can experience this in almost every area of life: starting with the simple change of clothing style to becoming a partner.
Now it is the case that not everyone likes to be the center of attention and enjoys the attention, be it positive or negative. Rather, they avoid many, do not want to attract attention, be different, prefer to fly under the radar. But wouldn’t it be a shame if other people’s opinions got in the way of our personal development? After all, a caterpillar doesn’t stay in its cocoon just because it’s afraid of the talk of other reptiles when it suddenly flies up as a butterfly.
What we want to express with this: Let’s let people talk. Easier said than done, yes. But if you start with a few small areas of life where you just listen to yourself, that’s enough. Because we quickly gain enough self-confidence from the positive feeling that arises from it to write more and more things on the “I-don’t-let-I-let-I-be-talked-in” list. Almost happens by itself, I promise!
Trusting yourself: 5 things we don’t want to be talked into
haircut
You finally want to try the pixie short hairstyle? Do it! How often do we get whining “Ohhhs” and “Aaahs” next to the classic: “But your hair is so beautiful, what a pity!”. Above all, our hair is beautiful because we can do whatever we want with it. And if we reach into the toilet, it’s not so wild either – after all, it grows back. The only exception: the hairdresser we trust can help with advice and action. But that’s about it.
The dream of the house
Who actually says that you have to get married in your mid-30s, have children and build a house? No one. In our heads, many people have nevertheless solidified this ideal of life. Certainly the classic way of life of starting a family, including a single-family house and a nice front yard, is an option for many – but not a must. By the way, your own lifestyle doesn’t have to do anything except make you happy. Whether with cats or children, friends or family, alone or in the community, that is up to you.
raising children
Speaking of family… Anyone who has a child is suddenly overwhelmed with parenting advice. You are still happy about the first tips and tricks, but a limit is quickly crossed and it becomes overwhelming. The same applies here: take a deep breath, don’t compare, trust in yourself. The perfect family happiness looks different for everyone – that’s why you can only find it yourself.
clothing style
Have you heard? Skinny jeans are said to be dead. Yes, really! We’ve just gotten used to them. At some point we will reach an age where we are still happy about trends and inspiration – but have also found our own style. That’s a good thing. And if our favorite items include zebra leggings, vintage floral blouses or skinny jeans, we’ll still wear them when they’re no longer trendy. By the way, there is no such thing as too funky, as long as you feel comfortable. It would be boring if we all looked the same.
Partner choice
How often do you find yourself comparing your relationship to others? Or worried before the first meeting with family and friends whether your partner really fits in? And does everyone like it? As long as the person is good for us, we would say: It really doesn’t matter what other people think. Incidentally, love does not always follow conventional paths and when two people find each other who may not seem a good match at first glance, we are happy – and ignore gossip: inside.