Would you like clever advice from a professional? Then you can either go straight to one – or just read on …
Let's face it: almost everyone can use a little professional life support. How practical that at "Reddit" numerous people have shared the best advice and tips from their psychotherapists – maybe one or the other will also help us a bit.
People share the best tips from their psychotherapists
1. It's all "only" in my head
"Regarding my panic attacks, the sentence, 'Nobody has ever died of a panic attack', everything changed for me. It may seem totally obvious and banal, but if you panic, it's a huge help to be able to remember a phrase like that – from the mouth of a person you respect and trust. Just to think that no matter how convinced I am that I will die, in truth I will NOT die. What is happening is terrible and it will remain terrible, but it cannot kill me. I think that's probably the most helpful thing that anyone has ever said to me. "
2. Long-term and irrevocable …
"A friend once told me, 'Suicide is a long-term solution to a short-term problem.'"
3. Now or never
"In our couple therapy, the sentence fell: 'Work on it now with this person or come back with the next one.'"
4. Winds of Change
"The only thing in life that we can rely on is change."
5. Size doesn't matter
"Do something small every day, something bigger every week, and something big every month. How big or small the things you choose are actually dependent on your resources – do something you can do, no matter how small you start. "
6. Nobody's perfect
"It's okay to make mistakes. Nobody is perfect."
7. Carpe diem
"Life is a moment in the light of eternity. Make it yours and not some insignificant lump."
8. Short-circuit instead of short-circuiting
"My therapist always advises me to be 'curious' instead of feeling sad, disappointed or angry. For some reason, it always changes my attitude when we look back and tell me to be curious as to why someone said or did something So I question things and look for reasons instead of just reacting. "
9. What you can and cannot control
"I can't control other people's behavior, but I can control my attitude and response to it. I chose to respond in a way that improves my life."
10. Count the little things
"It is perfectly fine to live for the smallest things. And if it is only the next sunrise."
11. All people are equal
"It's okay to be a special snowflake. Somehow we all are."
12. Trying is not trying
"Try different things, but do something. Meet new people. Only that will give you the opportunity to find something that makes you happy."
13. Happiness is a decision
"I can choose to be happy. It took me a few years to decide that I deserve to be happy. But at some point it worked."
14. Our time is limited
"Life is hard and then you die."
15. Honestly lasts the longest
"Tell the truth. It's amazing how often we tell little lies out of convenience or perceived need. Yes, there are situations where you may feel that lying is the best and safest option. But if you don't tell honestly If you can do what you feel and believe you have to pretend to be someone you are not, you are only harming yourself.
The best thing about being honest is that you don't have to remember exactly what you said or did. You can trust your own memory without thinking or trying to maintain your lies. Believe me, even small things can be of great value. "
The answers come from different Reddit threads. Here are the originals: Thread 1, Thread 2, Thread 3, Thread 4. If you want to share or discuss your best psycho-tip, have a look at our community!