Relationship
you want to get married 15 questions to ask yourself beforehand
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Whoever gets married only wants one thing: to stay together forever and ever. Relationship experts say: The chances of this increase if you honestly ask yourself a few questions before saying “I do”.
“Honey, we need to talk!” Most people can relate to this phrase about as much as they would to a freshly-mashed seaweed smoothie. With sand insert. If you believe American relationship experts, however, couples cannot start verbally testing their relationship through its paces early enough – but at the latest when the step in front of the altar is due.
According to the New York Times, these are particularly suitable 15 questions to put them before the “yes” word:
There are no wrong questions
Admittedly, we suspect that there are many people who do not particularly like to examine themselves and their potential spouses so mercilessly before exchanging rings. At the latest when asking about the things that annoy us about our partner’s family, the good old white lie might be appropriate. And whether we really need to be informed in detail that our loved one once had a bad toothache in 2002 is certainly an open question.
But even uncomfortable questions usually have a purpose. Asking them empowers us to make more conscious choices. And even in the, of course, highly unlikely event that the decision doesn’t stay the same throughout our lives, if we later feel that we made it knowingly, well-informed, and freely, we will regret it less, if not at all.
If we are in the process of pestering our partner anyway, we can add a few thoughts that Arthur Aaron presented almost 50 years ago: The US scientist came up with a test with 36 questions as early as 1977 , with which we can get really close to another person. Because we shouldn’t forget that when we’ve asked all the questions and gotten all the answers: Marriage is about love – and that is and will always be unpredictable.
Source used: nytimes.com