Love yourself
17 ways to be kind to ourselves
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Be honest: When was the last time you put yourself at number one on your priority list and did something just for yourself? Can’t you remember it? The time has come. For example like this:
1. Find yourself again. Just check in with yourself and think about what defines you right now, what interests you, what you’re passionate about, what your limits are and what values and needs are important to you right now.
2. Girl, how are you? Feeling in regularly is good. How are you right now? What is there right now and wants to be felt?
3. Give yourself what you need. Coffee? Tea? Stroll? Hug? Sleep? Notice how your emotions feel in your body, what you need right now and take care of your needs.
4. Don’t judge! All feelings are allowed. Often it’s just enough to feel a little, instead of judging yourself or, worse, condemning yourself for it.
4. Be your biggest supporter! Stand behind yourself, behind what you believe in and what you think about.
5. Be the parent you might have needed from time to time in the past. Helps! Promised. The inner child talk is true. So: comfort yourself, love yourself, encourage yourself.
6. Be your best friend. Treat yourself with kindness and love instead of putting the strict senior teacher at the forefront of your thoughts, who nags you with nasty, disproportionate criticism. You don’t do that with your best friend either, do you?
7. Practice points 5 and 6.
8. Set boundaries! Do you really want this right now? Are you doing this for yourself or just for others? Are you comfortable with that? Do you feel comfortable with the person who wants something from you right now? What does your gut say? (Practice that too)
9. You are a horny pig! Your body deserves to be treated with respect. He does a lot and we only realize that when he stops doing it. So get enough sleep, eat healthy, drink water, move your ass!
10. No matter what others say: Your perception and your feelings in certain situations are okay.
11. You are not too much. You are enough!
12. Be authentic instead of fake. It’s not worth bending over backwards for others. It just costs energy and it doesn’t work in the long run. It’s better to be yourself and see what that does to your environment instead of always just reacting to your environment.
13. Say what you want for yourself, instead of expecting others to guess or see it in their crystal ball.
14. Separate yourself from people that are not good for you. Don’t allow anyone to treat you badly.
15. Take care of yourself. Find out what you like to do, what you can do alone, for yourself, if that’s difficult for you, and then enjoy it every now and then. Just time for you and with you.
16. Know your worth and don’t forget it. Never! Never, never, never! Simply write yourself a love letter or ask friends and colleagues what they like about you. A love shower is probably one of the best showers in the whole wide world!
17. Listen to your intuition and don’t gaslight yourself. If it doesn’t work right away, practice over and over again.
The following applies to everything: No master has fallen from heaven yet, but constant dripping wears away the stone, to put it in very wise words.