sex fantasies
Almost all of us have these secret cravings
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Love, passion, lust – all these things usually come from one thing: the imagination. We will tell you here which, sometimes surprising, sex fantasies almost every one of us has.
A fulfilled sex life not only contributes to personal well-being, but also to a satisfying partnership and plays an important role for some and less important for others. It is often the sexual fantasies that bring our inner desires to the fore. According to the experts, there are certain cravings that almost all of us have and hand on heart – one or the other head cinema probably even seems familiar to you.
According to sex researcher Barry McCarthy, most fantasies aren’t about turning specific thoughts into reality, they’re just about fantasizing what we really only want in our imaginations. For this reason, the fantasy scenarios usually deviate from the typical depictions of missions in the bedroom and are dedicated to thoughts that fill the gaps in what we want but don’t have.
These are the 3 most common sex fantasies
dominance
Out of around 4,000 respondents, 93% of women and 81% of men say they imagine being dominated, while 85% of men and 76% of women imagine playing the dominant role. Associated with this are ideas of BDSM, role-playing games or cosplay. Cosplay is the act of disguising oneself as something or someone else, while role-playing is inherently associated with a sexual meaning and these different roles are expressed purely through behavior. But be careful – with all interpersonal actions, it is particularly important to ensure that the implementation of this fantasy is of course always carried out by mutual consent.
Sex with multiple partners
Sexual fantasies involving multiple people are relatively common. Men more often than women imagine sleeping with multiple women, especially anonymous partners. But women also often imagine several partners in their sex fantasies. Above all, same-sex partners and famous personalities are the top priority.
Sex with people from the immediate environment
Be it the boss, teacher or neighbor – people from our immediate environment are often also present in our imagination. At the same time, they exert a certain attraction and make us curious about the unknown sides of these people. As with all fantasies, however, the mere thought does not necessarily mean that certain things want to be implemented.
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Who would have thought: These fantasies are also very high
In addition to the fantasies that you may have already guessed, there are other mental cinemas that are more popular than you think and have little to do with the “dirty” or “rough” cliché.
homoeroticism and gender bending
Gender bend is when a person challenges societal ideas about their gender. Regardless of sexual orientation, everyone can live out gender bend. Drag queens, for example, live in the opposite sex for a certain period of time, but do not feel the desire to live permanently as the opposite sex. So we’re not talking about trans here. According to studies, sexual fantasies of heterosexual people of the same sex are not untypical. In their fantasies, women in particular consider acting out sexual needs with the same gender.
romance
Over 80% of straight, gay, and bisexual people fantasize about a romantic situation with their current partner. Above all, romantic sex is prioritized here, but of course it can vary from person to person. Tantric sex is also often mentioned in this context. This is slower-paced sex that focuses on the connection with the partner rather than orgasm as the primary goal. Tantra sex can also help to be physically and spiritually present and offers the opportunity to expand all aspects of personality.
Sources used: psychologytoday.com, insider.com