The network is spinning, reports are overturning, gender researchers are screaming. And all because of a "news" that is actually none at all. Indeed, researchers have found that men are the greatest stress factor for women. Even before children and the household. Well so what. Does this surprise anyone?
What is wrong with it
According to the study, the culprit is the unwillingness of men to take care of the household. At least that's how women feel. Not that the offspring are much more helpful, but the indulgence towards your own children seems to be greater than that towards the man. Could be because children are small. And because you know that at some point they will fill up their own booth. It's a little different with men. It stays. So at best.
With which we can nerve back
By the way, men are not a bit stressed out by women. At least not if everything is peaceful. But we can really nerve them back if we argue with them. According to science, this makes your stress level skyrocket very quickly. Well, whether that makes sense to give him an adrenaline thump if you are already totally annoyed is an open question. But are there better solutions?
The key to misfortune is called "Mother Gathering"
Finally, a quick look at your own front door. Yes, you could also get away a little bit there. For many women, the "lazy man" is a homemade problem. Experts call the inability to relinquish responsibilities in the area of child and household "Mother Gathering". It is common. But if we women always watch with diligent eyes, how man deals with the child, to what degree he puts the machine laundry or whether the back corner of the back corner is perfectly vacuumed, this does not necessarily lead to more responsibility on the part of the partner. So the more we act as guardians of the perfect household, our men will withdraw. The principle also has a name, namely: All seats are taken. Meaning: You don't take a place in the relationship that is already occupied. Incidentally, this applies to every area of the relationship. Anyone who has a realm of concern as a partner becomes more carefree. People with chaotic partners get tidier. And people who have partners who find the household particularly important … well, you understand.
The solution is so simple
If you know the principle, you can also use it well for yourself. For example, just put your feet up, read the newspaper and occupy the place "lazy partner". Maybe it works and he sees that there is still space on the vacuum cleaner … Just try it. And then don't complain about the far corner of the far corner. You know. Mother gathering and all that.