Manage your romantic relationship like your career, why not? This is the idea applied by Annie who wrote black on white her expectations and her claims to her new lover!
Around a table, Annie and Michael established point by point their vision and their expectations of the couple as if they were negotiating a partnership. A year after their meeting on Tinder, the lovers claim to live a fulfilling relationship thanks to this contract. It is Annie Wright, 21, who is the instigator. From their first meeting, both are aware that a beautiful story begins.
Only, having suffered a lot in a previous affair which she qualifies as “toxic”the young woman immediately wants to establish safeguards. “The biggest problem in my last story was that I was constantly forced to cross my limits. So I said to myself, ‘This time, I will write them down and no one will be able to force me to exceed them. “” So, just two weeks after their first meeting and to give their budding romance every chance, Annie pragmatically suggests to Michael, in a humorous tone, to write what they want – and don’t want – one of the other.
Michael is required to give Annie flowers twice a month.
Surprise for Michael, the young woman still presents him with a 17-page pad! Amused, the 23-year-old law student is not put off by his procedural side and agrees to play the game of this “love contract“that they refine together. In the document, four objectives are set: honesty, communication, being attentive to the needs of the other and having clear intentions towards one’s partner. Even if Annie made a point of specifying more concrete expectations.
For example, she asks her lover to pay for their private evenings, to buy her flowers twice a month, to stay in shape and train five times a week, or not to isolate from loved ones. “We printed our terms and conditions. We went to his house, and we read the document aloud, recalls Annie. We entered into a relationship as if it were a business relationship.” A business vision stubbornly defended by this student in risk management.
“We agree to start life together”
Laying these milestones would, in her opinion, allow for a fulfilling relationship: “If we have to deal with conflict, we do it as partners. We sit down and work in partnership, love being our bonus”, asserts such convinced. The Atlanta couple will celebrate their first anniversary in October. “I recommend everyone to make a clear contract, supports Annie. You may have invested one or two years in your relationship without agreeing on the essentials.”
“I live in constant fear of realizing that my partner doesn’t have the same life plan as I do. So Michael and I update our relationship contract every six months or so.” The two are already having fun with the new clauses, “like taking off your shoes before entering the apartment”, jokes Michael. He adds : “We are in agreement to take on life together and this contract is our game plan for success.” At the Happiness Championship, let’s hope they transform the test!
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