To live happily, let's live apart! This could be the motto of those called "celicouples". And there are more and more of them.
To live happily as a couple, do you have to live under the same roof? More and more of them are saying no. This is what a study conducted by the National Institute of Demographic Studies (INED) reported.
What is a "celicouple"?
This portmanteau word designates people halfway between living together and celibacy. According to figures from INED, 1 in 3 adults live alone, without being single. 1.8 million people are thus currently in "celicouple". This tendency is clearly more pronounced among those in their forties and fifties: only 22% of 45-65 year olds indicated that they wanted to move in with their partner compared to 68% of 26-30 year olds. For Arnaud Régnier-Loilier, director of research at INED, this is mainly due to the fact that " these people no longer wish to have children, so they have less social pressure, less imperative to live as a couple ".
Among the youngest, several factors may explain why couples live apart during the first years: some are still students, live with their parents, or do not have a stable job.
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Why get into "celicouple"?
For some people, this is a full-fledged, long-term marital lifestyle. For others, it is a frequentation phase, a kind of "trial period", which leads in fine at the end of the relationship or to move into common accommodation. Couples who choose not to live together generally find a good relational balance. The "celicouple" would have many advantages. This allows, above all, total independence, and thus promotes personal development. The feeling of withdrawal sets in more and reunions can be more carnal. Partners will have more to talk about, and see more of the good sides of the relationship. In addition, the routine will settle down less quickly.
However, the "celicouple" only works if the partners are on the same wavelength. Everyone may evolve differently. If one of the partners develops new desires, and they are not shared, this non-cohabitation can become a form of suffering. Whatever you choose, it requires discussing it together and making decisions that will make both of you happy.