No matter if with the new partner or at all: the first sex is always something special. We have five tips on how to best enjoy your premiere in bed.
The first date, the first time hold hands, the first necking , the first kiss – hah! – being in love is so exciting! But of all the first times we go through at the beginning of a relationship, one thing is for sure the most important: the first sex .
Why is the first sex so special?
No wonder, after all , sexual intercourse is something more intimate than kissing or petting for most people . Sex connects us with partner or partner in his own way and to experience an orgasm together, welds together even more (when we experience something very exciting, intoxicating together, that increases the love, so far, the orgasm is really a kind of emotional catalyst ).
The first sex is not a test
But beware! We should not attribute too much importance to the first sex with our sweetheart . Not at all, we should see him as a test or something, according to the motto, if we harmonize in bed the same, this is a sign of love , if not, we do not fit together.
To be honest, the likelihood that the first sex will be a blast (haha, unintentional wordplay) is actually rather low. We are not yet matched , hardly knowing the other’s preferences. For many couples the sex is only over time, with practice and growing familiarity really for both parties beautiful, passionate and perfect .
Therefore, excitement – of course. Tension – gladly. Something special and a milestone in your partnership – absolutely. But not any more! After all, the first sex is only the first time of something that happens sooner or later in your relationship or your life, and of which there will be many more times .
The first sex: 5 tips
In general, you can not go wrong with sex as long as you relax and follow your feelings (and of course use a condom or other contraceptive). But you can still do a lot right! And as we all get smarter with our experiences and get to know our sexuality more and more over time, we’ve put together five tips to help you with your first time , which may help you a bit and at least lessen the unpleasant part of the excitement.
1. Do not expect so much
To be honest, our sexual premiere will probably be the worst sexual intercourse in our lives (or partnership). We can theoretically prepare for it – get wet, relax at the right time and come, if his penis penetrates into us, we can not learn at Wikipedia.
Especially if it’s your very first time, you should even be careful to be prepared for mild (!) Pain, because the rupture of the hymen can be quite painful. But: Even with the first activity after a long sexual break, it may be that the hymen breaks again, because in total abstinence, it often grows back a bit. That it bleeds then is normal in both cases – but one reason to be afraid or double-braced is our hymen or its tearing by no means!
Best Practice : Be as relaxed as possible and do not expect so much, otherwise the disappointment is inevitable. (By the way, applies to almost all life situations!)
2. Leave time
For a well-rehearsed team, a quickie is great, but to start with a new partner he is certainly not the best choice. If we can not rely on a common pool of experience, we should at least initially as careful and attentive as possible deal with each other – and that costs time nunmal. The longer and more intense the prelude , the better we can adjust to him the first time (and he is with us) and find out what excites him (and us) and what kind of touches sexually (and us).
Therefore: At the premiere best to push a quiet ball and try it with Blümchensex and viiieel stroking.
3. Make it comfortable
It’s all exciting enough anyway, so you do not have to increase the thrill by doing it in the car or in the last row in the cinema. Have a snack together, have a chat (for example about family planning ?), create a nice atmosphere (candles or something) and then cuddle up in bed, on the couch or on a cozy rug.
As I said: Blümchensex is the best commandment of this special hour!
4. Start with the basics
Even if you’re not fancy enough about dating, your best bet is to start your sex life with riding or missionary work . Once you have played each other, you can still experiment extensively with the other sex positions from the Kamasutra.
5. self-confidence
- Oh no, if he sees me naked, he certainly will not get an erection!
- Am I beautiful?
- Oh dear, I’m certainly not fit enough for him!
- Do our zodiacs match at all?
- Maybe I could hold him for a few more days …
- Should I have had to consult with my gynecologist?
Lots of thoughts that have absolutely nothing to do with intercourse and are not healthy at all (neither the first nor the fiftieth)! It’s best for everyone involved, if we turn off the head as possible and instead leave the helm to our feelings and our intuition (of course we have to think of contraception, of course, but if we take the pill or condoms before ready, that’s probably not asking too much).